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Being ignored

Hi everyone, having been posting on here for a bit but now I have a question for everyone. I recently joined POF to see if I can maybe find someone who would look past my cerebral palsy, and I have been talking to this girl. Unfortunately it didn't turn out because if it went further she would be breaching her work contract (she coaches for a sporting organisation I represent at international level - didn't know this until yesterday) - typical isn't it?
Anyway I has been messaging others, they are reading it but not replying. I try to ask a question like favourite movie, city etc to get convo started but it fall on deaf ears. I get no reply and some have even just immediately deleted after looking at profile. It appears that they see I've got a disability, and even though they have 'I'm open minded', 'will give anyone a shot', they seem to to freaking out.
Basically just wondered if anyone else have experienced this and if so, how did you get people to look at the person on inside rather than the outside casing? It's frustrating that todays world is all about image and perception when all you want is a chance and for someone to see the person.
Thanks all
Fraser
Anyway I has been messaging others, they are reading it but not replying. I try to ask a question like favourite movie, city etc to get convo started but it fall on deaf ears. I get no reply and some have even just immediately deleted after looking at profile. It appears that they see I've got a disability, and even though they have 'I'm open minded', 'will give anyone a shot', they seem to to freaking out.
Basically just wondered if anyone else have experienced this and if so, how did you get people to look at the person on inside rather than the outside casing? It's frustrating that todays world is all about image and perception when all you want is a chance and for someone to see the person.
Thanks all
Fraser
Replies
It's not easy finding someone in any walk of life but sometimes I think that people definitely need to start seeing past the exterior and see the person within.... cos they are missing out.
Thanks for taking the time to respond.