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Giving up, giving in or just accepting?

I have lost my fight. I always fought to be better, knowing I would improve. I have lost that fight.
It feels like giving up - and indeed it is the giving up of what was a hopeful fantasy.
Is this a stage we go through in order to come to peace with our illness?
It feels like giving up - and indeed it is the giving up of what was a hopeful fantasy.
Is this a stage we go through in order to come to peace with our illness?
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To me, there are 4 stages to accepting a disability/illness. Denial, Anger, Emotional, Acceptance. The first three can happen in any order for each person. What you're feeling right now is completely normal. I know it's easier said than done but hang in there, you will be OK. We will hold your hand throughout this
Disability Gamechanger - 2019
Disability Gamechanger - 2019
I have more understanding now. Grateful for that.
Some people seem to need sympathy all of the time or demand that everyone around them knows all about their disabilities and as such they never move from the first three. In fact there are many that don't want to reach the 4th stage as it would mean a loss of income from the government.
My attitude towards my disabilities is, I may have all these things wrong with me...and? Ain't going to stop me from making the best of my life.!
Disability Gamechanger - 2019
This must be difficult to talk about so thanks for opening up
Tami
I refuse to be limited, refuse to be ill, I will get back to myself.
" Then do things like I did today - two loads of heavy laundry, hanging them all outside and bringing them in again. And now the pain is v ery bad and I can't move my left arm at all.
My mind wants something my b cannot do. I have to work hard at accepting my life just as it is. That means letting go of a lot of dreams.
Thanks for answering. (I have no idea how this computer went into italics or how to get it back to a normal font).
Disability Gamechanger - 2019
"The person you were, mentally and physically, is gone".
I understand "physically", but not "mentally". You have such good insight - could you explain that for me? I have, of course, mental changes from ageing, but what changes do you mean that are brought about by the disability?
Thank you for your honesty.
Your cancer was awful. I know how those chemo treatments make you feel. And I, too, have flashbacks to the very bad times.
Thank god we are not there now. Yes, I have changed mentally, too, a great deal - much more fear of repeated pain and worsening illness (mine will continue to get work, my bones are eroding). And my focus is altogether different, mostly concentrated on how to manage with the illness.
You have all my sympathy for all you have been through.