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Home alone and feeling isolated

mag1060mag1060 Member Posts: 1 Listener
edited October 2018 in Disabled people
isolated can go anywhere unless accompanied and since lived here 4 years I don’t know anyone last time I had visitor in my house was July 27 th last year. Not seen anyone apart from health professionals 

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  • MatildaMatilda Member Posts: 2,616 Disability Gamechanger
    Are you on Facebook?  There are chat threads on there.  It's not f2f but it is some social contact.
  • Firefly123Firefly123 Member Posts: 525 Pioneering
    Hi sorry to hear your stuck at home.
    you checked if there are any befriending services in your area they could take you out come sit have a tea or just a chat 
  • MisscleoMisscleo Member Posts: 646 Pioneering
    How would she find befriending services ?

  • MatildaMatilda Member Posts: 2,616 Disability Gamechanger
    She could search for local disabled groups and ask them if they have befriending services.  Or the healthcare professionals who visit her might know of local disabled groups.
  • Firefly123Firefly123 Member Posts: 525 Pioneering
    Misscleo said:
    How would she find befriending services ?

    Befriending.co.uk has a list of all areas that offer the service. 
    And yes as Mitilda said check what disabled groups are in your area and what services they offer. 
  • Pippa_AlumniPippa_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,851 Disability Gamechanger
    edited October 2018
    Hi @mag1060, and a warm welcome to the community! It's great to have you here.

    So sorry to hear you're feeling isolated- you've had some good suggestions from other members already, but do let us know if we can be of assistance. I hope you find the community to be a safe and supportive place where you can socialise with others online, too.

    If you're comfortable sharing your location, I'd be happy to look for some local services for you?
  • newbornnewborn Member Posts: 713 Pioneering
    Hmm mm   there is/was some kind of 'befriending' where people would go in pairs to someone's house, once a month, to drink tea and chat to one another, before pat ting the person on the head, metaphorically.  IT was an odd notion of friendship,  as they would not have been willing to contact the person in any other circs. E.g. visiting if their 'friend' was entirely isolated in hospital

     .  Another scheme has people rounding up 'The elderly', carting them off once every month or two, to be given a cup of tea, therefore to have their miserable worthless lives filled with 'something to look forward to'.   

    The organisers/grant-spenders (?) obviously believe that 'The disabled' or 'The elderly' are somehow less than equal humans just like themselves.
  • Tra7cyTra7cy Member Posts: 33 Connected
    Wow. What is your problem? I really think you should go to your mental health team. It's obvious you need some one to talk to, please be careful and be safe xx
  • TopkittenTopkitten Member Posts: 1,263 Pioneering
    Age UK have a befriending service as well as a cleaning service. I use the cleaning service and have gotten to know the lady quite well. She always stops after doing the cleaning, makes us both a coffee and we chat for a while. She isn't supposed to do this but it's in her own time. I often think I should get her flowers or something but, being stuck indoors, find such things very difficult. At least I get some contact if only once a week.

    TK
    "I'm on the wrong side of heaven and the righteous side of hell" - from Wrong side of heaven by Five Finger Death Punch.
  • MatildaMatilda Member Posts: 2,616 Disability Gamechanger
    A friend of mine has run a Contact the Elderly group for housebound elderly for many years.  the group goes out for tea, including food, once a month to a volunteer host's house.  In the country in summer, suburbs in winter.  Many of the elderly are long-term attendees.
  • linslins Member Posts: 2 Listener
    I have severe m.e. and have a cpn(community psyciatric nurse)who v visits me as i twice attempted suicide. My cpn put my name into a Befriending group and i was paired up with a lady who visits me weekly when we either stay here and chat or, if im up to it, go to the neighbouring farm which has a nice cafe. My befriender is a polish nun and im an agnostic which you would think wouldnt go together but we chat away merrily about anything and everything except religion which is never mentioned. My befriender has certainly done me good.
  • Sue52Sue52 Member Posts: 78 Courageous
    Hi  @mag1060
    So sorry to hear you feel so isolated. There are so many societies today that can help. Unfortunately, some do charge but not a small fortune. 
    I had help from Crossroads with my dad. they would come in once a week (or more if you need them). Just for a chat, a coffee, make you lunch or even sit and have lunch together. 
    They were very good. Asked me my dads likes and dislikes and then matched a similar personality with him. 
    Hope this helps, have a great day and there is always someone hear to talk to
    take care
    Sue 

  • Tra7cyTra7cy Member Posts: 33 Connected
    I so apologise to you mag1060 my comment wasn't meant for you but for newborn who seems to be very pessimistic, we all have our cross to bare. What everyone is saying is right you have to reach out to others, there are people that will help, but you have to be the one take the first step. I wish you well and know that the lovely peeps on here will be here for you me included xxx
  • kami24kami24 Member Posts: 402 Pioneering
    i would be your friend if i lived near you , i find i am alone the majority of the time apart from mum brother and dad now and again but they live miles away, i have borderline personality disorder controlled by tablets and possibly autism which means i have no friends and i find making friends a mystery unless they have issues like myself or other issues which means we understand each other more because people don't understand you generally in society with mental illness or even physical problems can be misunderstood sometimes as not all of them can empathise or know what illness you have.
  • JulesA65JulesA65 Member Posts: 33 Courageous
    Mag1060, see if you can find a local community centre, or if you do use facebook put in local community groups. Another idea, is contact the Adult Social Care team at your local council. They may be able to point you in the right direction. Not everyone is ready for Age UK. Or try your local library for information
  • JulesA65JulesA65 Member Posts: 33 Courageous
    Mag1060, see if you can find a local community centre, or if you do use facebook put in local community groups. Another idea, is contact the Adult Social Care team at your local council. They may be able to point you in the right direction. Not everyone is ready for Age UK. Or try your local library for information
  • JulesA65JulesA65 Member Posts: 33 Courageous
    Mag1060, see if you can find a local community centre, or if you do use facebook put in local community groups. Another idea, is contact the Adult Social Care team at your local council. They may be able to point you in the right direction. Not everyone is ready for Age UK. Or try your local library for information
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