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Skydogg Member Posts: 2 Listener
I was always fairly fit, played a lot of sport. In December 99 I broke my back in a road traffic accident. I haven’t worked since. A major life change. I was lucky in that the accident didn’t leave me parylised. I had a fusion op to ease the pain, but I was unlucky in that it didn’t work. It made the pain worse. 
The guy that ran into me, they never caught him. I had separate medical insurance. I was never going to work again, but the insurance people said that wasn’t because of the pain in my back. Claiming was time limited, & despite applying 3 times, we ended up with nothing. They would only pay out if you couldn’t work again.
I can’t really walk now. I have a Motability vehicle. I’m married a to an amazing woman who has stuck by me through everything. We celebrated our silver wedding anniversary last year. 
We have 2 children, both born since the accident. The first using the assisted pregnancy unit, the second using a syringe at home. I kid you not, romantic it wasn’t. Our kids are wonderful. One is 11, the other is 9.
I’ve never got used to sitting all day. The four walls can seem like a prison sometimes. I have just seen my son off to school. He’ll be the next person .I see, when he comes home. Days can drag. I’m sure others know what I mean. 
I take tablets for various things. I think that’s the major stuff, 


  • Ami2301
    Ami2301 Community Co-Production Group Posts: 7,946 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Skydogg welcome to the community!

    I am so sorry for what you have been through! Have you had any sort of emotional support to help you through this?

    Congratulations on your silver wedding anniversary! It sounds like you have a lovely family unit :)

    I know what you mean about four walls feel like a prison, it's horrible, are your medications helping?
    Disability Gamechanger - 2019
  • Liam_Alumni
    Liam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 1,105 Pioneering
    Hi @Skydogg, welcome to Scope's online community!

    Many congratulations on your silver wedding anniversary! That's wonderful news. :)

    Do let us know if we can help in any way! 
  • Skydogg
    Skydogg Member Posts: 2 Listener
    To answer you Ami2301
    My emotional support has been mostly from my wife. Also, we have a good group of friends around us, we are lucky.
    A little while after my accident, my wife went to see the doctor, wondering if she was suffering from depression. I went with her, & in the doctor's office, listening to her relate how she was feeling, I realised I was going through exactly the same thing. The doctor said to her, with what we had been through, he would have been amazed if we weren't suffering from depression. It was a long haul, but we seem to work well together. Eventually, my wife managed to beat the depression, & came off her medication. She still takes it in winter, as she suffers from SAD. I'm still on medication for depression. What the doctor said was the major thing for dealing with depression was to change your circumstances. My wife could, in that she changed her job, as she was managing 2 shops in different cities from the one we live in. She now works in the city we live in.
    She is my rock. 
    I did visit one specialist that my doctor recommended. Whilst I was in the waiting room, I had a panic attack. I hung on to see her, but when I went in & explained what was happening, I felt more like something to be studied. She couldn't offer anything. So, it is mostly my wife.

    The family really help, they have been a godsend. My kids are wonderful, they understand what I can & can't do. 

    Are medications helping with the four wall problem? I've no idea. I would hate to be without my medication, put it that way.
  • Ami2301
    Ami2301 Community Co-Production Group Posts: 7,946 Disability Gamechanger
    Your wife is an extraordinary woman! She sounds amazing!

    Its great that you have a supportive network of family and friends around you.
    Disability Gamechanger - 2019


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