Feeling alone

harrisonmm

HI everyone, I'm 23 and have cerebral palsy, this affects me quite severely physically. I have slowly become quite lonely over the last couple of years and am now fighting depression. I enjoy night clubs and being social but have no one to go with. All my local groups seem to cater for people with learning disabilities and I'm not part of the able bodied community, I'm feeling very lost. Is there any suggestions or anybody that feels the same. I'm at college and have just got a place at uni for next year, although my college 'friends' are kind to me, I know I'm not part of their social circle. I'm just alone. I live with my family who are great but I just want to get out and have fun. Any ideas.

Ami2301

Hi @harrisonmm welcome to the community!

Sorry to hear you have been feeling very low. I'm sure many members of our community, who suffer with Cerebal Palsy can relate and offer support.

I will tag @Richard_Scope who also suffers with Cerebal Palsy and is our Specialist Information Officer, lovely gent!

I am the same age as yourself, I dont have Cerebal Palsy but I do have conditions which affect my mobility, it can be very isolating. 

harrisonmm

Thank you, Im sorry I seem such a negative person, I am usually so positive about life and my condition. Yesterday should have been a good day, getting my uni offer, but even that didn't help this 'down' feeling. Thank you for your help, I look forward to hearing from Richard.

Ami2301

Please dont apologise, understandably we all have our bad days, just remember to look how far you've come. Dont stop reaching for the stars

thespiceman

Hello @harrisonmm Pleased to meet you.

One suggestion I have is look at volunteering to find interaction social life.

You are going to University well done for attaining that.

You have the skills, talents, abilities to be useful. Some organisations always need volunteers.  You have Cerebral Palsy do they need your support groups volunteers never know where it might lead.

SCOPE always needs volunteers.  Contact community@scopeorg.uk.  Look at the top of this page and click on the support, information box.

May I also advise.  Look to some aims and goals.

Make a list of those opportunities, achievements that you would like to do. No matter how ridiculous and silly.

Have a think get a diary. Plan something you like to do. Make it fun and enjoyable.

Remember life is a journey with baggage. Do you wish to throw stones in the way we all do. Or do you wish to go over around the choice is yours.

Doing a range of activities might find you met more people like yourself.

All of us get down, depressed feel  lonely.

University has so much  to offer.. Wish you all the success.

Always here anytime if you want to chat.

Please take care.

@thespiceman

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harrisonmm

Thank you so much, I'm going to do everything you advised .

Richard_Scope

Hi @harrisonmm

Great to meet you and congratulations on the uni offer! What are going to study?

I have CP myself and use a wheelchair. I can empathise with how you are feeling right now. Never apologise for how you feel, nobody can be Mr Sunshine all of the time.

University will be a great environment for you. There will be lots of clubs and societies for you to consider joining and plenty of opportunities for clubbing!! It's very daunting but sometimes you have to put yourself out there. Are you seeing your G.P. about your depression?

Richard_Scope

Hi @harrisonmm

How are you and how are things going?