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Son is being excluded and told he will not be educated

lougus Member Posts: 1 Listener
edited January 2019 in Education
My son has complex needs and has a recent diagnosis of ASD, he was excluded from school Oct 2017, has no ehcp and refused one, wanted to take his own life when put in apeople referral unit cut a long story short goal post changes all the time and was only rec 3 hrs education per week, today been told if he doesn’t access the unit he will not be educated ( his education ceased week ago) he is 14 


  • Ami2301
    Ami2301 Community Co-Production Group Posts: 7,941 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @lougus welcome to the community! 

    Sorry to hear about what has happened. I am unsure how to advise however hopefully q member of our community it will be ab,e to advise and will be in contact with you soon. I wish you all the best :)
    Disability Gamechanger - 2019
  • JennyF
    JennyF Member Posts: 14 Connected
    This is a dreadful situation to be in, and one which I have experienced, albeit many years ago. You are not alone in running into this type of educational brick wall - it's not your fault, it's theirs. I too hope that there will be others in the community with more concrete advice than I can give, but I think for myself, that if I were in the same situation all over again, I would be much tougher with the education authority - it's possible for example that they are breaking the law if they are refusing your son education. It sounds to me as though they are ignoring his mental health problem in their assessment, for example. 
    However I know - I was also the parent of a child with educational difficulties and mental health problems arising from them - that caring for such a child is a very demanding situation for a parent all by itself, without having to fight the local authority.
    Keep going - it's tough, very tough but it  will pass, we got through it into a much better place  and so will you. 
  • Sam_Alumni
    Sam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,682 Disability Gamechanger
    @melaniethorley can you help at all?
    Senior online community officer
  • Mark2121_21
    Mark2121_21 Member Posts: 3 Listener
    Let's try and understand where his mind has closure (something that has maybe caused a guilt problem-which makes him want to distance himself from someone, a place-or a feeling).i was 14 once 😎 where's dad?you sound like a single parent..if I may ,I might be able to get the best from your son.
    We need direction ,give him a purposeful hobby(football) Maybe he would like a audience which not only builds his confidence but gives a inscrutable challenge (booting the ball gets rid of stress)
    I found at that age I needed to let of steam ,home life was strict so I got my release staying out to play.
    I'd be glad to talk if I may 
    Best wishes
  • Geoark
    Geoark Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 1,375 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @lougus and welcome to the community.

    Please contact IPSEA

    They will be able to go through what has happened and advise you on your rights, and your son, and what can be done. They are very good.

    My own view is that pupil referral units are not the best mix for those with ASD as they often contain  young people with emotional and behavioural problems which can be a toxic environment for young people with ASD.

    Good luck

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    As a member of a group I did things.
    As part of a community I helped to create change!

  • melaniethorley
    melaniethorley Member Posts: 138 Pioneering
    Morning. What a dreadful situation and apologies for the delay in replying - for some reason my scope alerts stopped working. I would follow the advise on here. An alternative would be a virtual school...
  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 0 Courageous
    Hello @lougus

    Sorry to hear that you've been experiencing these issues with you son's school, sounds like a really hard situation to be in.

    I wondered if this may be of interest to you. My name is Emma and I am a Parent Adviser for the Scope Navigate service.  Navigate is a brand new service that provides a six week programme of online and telephone support to parents who have a child going through diagnosis or have a child who has recently been diagnosed with a disability. The aim is to provide parents of a child with a disability with emotional and practical support.

    If you think this may be something that could benefit you please visit or call 0808 801 0510

    Best Wishes.


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