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Erectile dysfunction

Hi, my wife and I had a series of medical problems, stomach op, double detached retina op etc etc that made it impractical to have sex for some time (I'm 64, my wife is 56)
Now we are not hindered, I am having trouble getting a full erection for long enough to be of use. GP had advised cuddling, as he thinks it's a confidence issue, but said there is no medical reason I could not take viagra. I tried to sign on with a clinic at Boots but they never responded.
Not helping that I just had a minor op on my foot and that's now heavily bandaged.
Suggestions?
Now we are not hindered, I am having trouble getting a full erection for long enough to be of use. GP had advised cuddling, as he thinks it's a confidence issue, but said there is no medical reason I could not take viagra. I tried to sign on with a clinic at Boots but they never responded.
Not helping that I just had a minor op on my foot and that's now heavily bandaged.
Suggestions?
Replies
You should get an appointment with your GP and seek a prescription.
They cannot decline you, provided you have no health issues.
Please note this will be a private prescription, which the GP might charge you.
Keep away from buying any form of medication on line, they are all crooks.
I'm not sure of you're area but the chemist up the road from me sells this over the counter, only thing I would say talk to a good pharmacist before purchasing just encase there maybe a medication conflict.
I can assure you, that your GP would not be embarrassed in the least about your ED, wife present or not.
Again, I maintain that you make an appointment with your GP, to address your ED problem.
There are a number of medications available, that your GP would explain in detail.
Please do not fall for other options are available, via Lloyd’s,Superdrug’s or Boots.
There is also something else you can look at alongside of Viagra the ED Ring you can research it on the internet seems to have good results for a lot of peeps .
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This is such a common problem but one nobody likes to talk about. I am very grateful that you've been so upfront and shared it here as I am sure others will have found this a very useful thread. My best wishes to you both.
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Also... ED has many forms.... Maybe you can ejaculated but not hard enough for penetration... .maybe that's not happening...
Personally a, I'd say do get as much medical help as poss before just getting a blue pill. There are several medications that can help.
Without details... As it's not really my story to tell.... We had probs untill the right person was seen and the right medication was found. Mainly due to family history of diabetes, so that's being helped with too.
In the mean time we got creative... We found things that worked.. I'm maybe a different way. In some ways... That's made us frickin awesome at sex.... . The main thing I found difficult though (as a female with my male partner) was lack of feedback. Usually I knew what was being enjoyed because well... But his body wasn't doing what it used to do when happy..
We got really good at talking. Partly as foreplay cos my body's so knackered that some activities are tricky... But also giving each other verbal feedback.
Oter thing we've had to get better at is planning full sex as he has medication he which takes 30mins to help..... Which kind fo puts he pressure on 😂... I found this really tricky... Made me nervous! We've got better at it. Partly because he's learnt it helps if he reads my flirty signals (honestly.. It's his worst nightmare.... I say signals.... What I mean is me saying 'go brush your teeth' our subtle code for go into bathroom and take the pill....) and we've learnt that it's very very very much worth it... And that if it doesn't happen his ball won't fall off or anything.
But, we did feel hopeless about it at one point and I forced him to the gp... And now it's really really good. So just wanted to offer hope too!
(so when you change your sign name from @Grumpy1954 to @StillASexGod1954
We're right here with you!)
"I'm trying to live like a random poem I read that ended 'to bloom where we are planted"
Also beware about the type & strength of the tablets given as when my husband took some about 5 years ago now he was fine with the first half he took but it made him like a stick of concrete that wouldn't go down, even after we'd finished being intimate (half of a tablet on advice of our family doctor). The 2nd time he took half his heart rate went up high & fast, the 3rd he went dizzy & collapsed! I was so frightened! He woke up after 20 minutes! He was fine but his heart rate was up slightly for a while after that! He never touched those kind again! He mentioned it to the doctor he's seen in more recent years & he's been fine with a whole blue tablet. No worries at all!
Guys have a wonderful time but please be very careful too? If any of you have any of these issues I've mentioned that my husband had when taking them a few years ago then don't ignore them like my better half did at first. As you've probably guessed, don't take anymore until you've seen a doctor about it or IF NEEDED seek immediate medical help! His symptoms were quite serious although he was okay & didn't need go to hospital luckily! He probably should have gone anyway but was completely back to normal after a a couple of hours.
These, days my other half says he has his 'mojo' back lol! I'm 42 going on 43 lol & it's, like being with a 22 year old man. I just with I was healthy so I could keep up with him! He just needed to find tablets that were suited to him. 🥰
I'm recent years I've become very ill & that's strained things in our marriage plus my weight is now up & down though even when it's up I still look slim! Things got a lot worse for him as he couldn't get an erection at all or I was too ill to try & by this time I was convinced it was me at the root cause. We hadn't used condoms in years so it wasn't that anymore. I urged him to see a doctor as he was too embarrassed yet again. This time they were said it was age then gave him some without question.
Strangely the longer he takes them the less often he needs them! At first he took one every day in the hope we could get intimate, as we have a mammoth sexual appetite for each other ! He does a lot of the work though lol! Then after the first week one tablet lasts him about two days. He can now get hard on occasions without the tablet in his system but if we haven't done anything for a couple of weeks he definitely needs one to 'kick-start' things. If he takes one and we don't do anything that day we know he's okay for a day or 2 on his own. We're both happy and it wasn't an easy road for either of us but we're both very satisfied & it's changed him as a man recently in a way I've never known lol. There is hope. It is worth it too. It's never stopped my love for him. I hope this helps in some way? Good luck to you with your journey. 👍🍀🙂