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Toilet issues

dredmandredman Member Posts: 6 Listener
edited June 2019 in Autism and Aspergers
Any tips / advice for encouraging dd to sleep nappy less in the evening? She is 6 and still wakes up wet. I'm not sure she is ready, but other children have made nasty comments about sleeping in nappies and it seems to bother her (plus store nappies are getting small!) 

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  • fantsufantsu Member Posts: 3 Listener
    Maybe she's actually ready? Tell us more about her.
  • dredmandredman Member Posts: 6 Listener
    She's 6. She wets in her nappy in the night. With her needs, she doesn't wake up when she needs the toilet. Her ADHD makes it harder to get her to sleep but her ASD makes her a deep sleeper! 
  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Member Posts: 2,906 Disability Gamechanger
    Have you talked to your g p or other health professional? Tbh I think every child ones at their own pace and its hard for someone else to predict. Have you tried using the waterproof mats or bedding instead of nappies? On the one hand you want your child rested and on the other you want them moving forward. It's tricky even more so with additional needs children. Perhaps speak to an o t who may know of devices like a buzzer alarm if it's appropriate. Good luck.
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  • dredmandredman Member Posts: 6 Listener
    Thank you. I have tried bedtime pads, but dge seems to wiggle around so much sge misses them!
  • Hart86Hart86 Member Posts: 394 Pioneering
    Sounds silly but have you tried taking her for a “dream wee”? So when you go up to bed carrying her to the toilet etc? Do you know when in the night she’s going? 
    Have you done the usual of stopping drinks after a certain time etc?
    Have you tried just getting rid of the nappies? Sometimes the security of having them is also the problem as they don’t feel wet etc. 
  • dredmandredman Member Posts: 6 Listener
    Tried dream wee, just caused upset and autistic meltdown. We switched to bed pads, but she'd rip them up and wee on matress. 
  • Beverley_ScopeBeverley_Scope Scope Navigate service Posts: 84 Pioneering
    Hi @dredman

    This can be a real problem I know.
    When my eldest son was 6/7 he was dry in the day and still wet at night.  As you say normal nappies are too small so we began getting dry nights for him from the supermarket.  These can be quite expensive.

    The problem hit a high when he had a sleepover with a friend, and although the dry nights looked similar to shorts, his friend commented on them and told others.

    In the end we took him to the GP and he was referred to an Enuresis nurse who gave us a program.  The nurse also provided us with a mattress alarm which activates when it starts to get wet to wake him up but as he got so warm at night he would sweat and this would set it off instead so we had to stop using it.

    In the end the program we received did work but it was awful to start with as we had to change his bed several times a night before it kicked in.

    We blamed ourselves for a long time as we took him out of nappies to try him many times and he would then wet the bed so we would put him back in them, saying he wasn't ready instead of persevering, but it is entirely dependent on the child and with your daughter sleeping so heavily with her autism it will make it harder I am sure.

    Try and visit the GP and ask about an enuresis service and see if you can be referred.  They may have more ideas.

    good luck,
    Beverley

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  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,652 Disability Gamechanger
    Thank you for sharing @dredman. Please do keep us updated on how you and your daughter get on with this!
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  • dredmandredman Member Posts: 6 Listener
    We have just had our first dry night! I made a visual timetable of what we were trying to do. Popped on a pad, no nappy. No drinks i hour before bed and a dream wee at 10. She woke up so proud! It's all stuff we did before but we forgot to do the visual timetable to explain it. This time we remembered and first night went well. Thanks everyone! Fingers crossed it continues 😊
  • Beverley_ScopeBeverley_Scope Scope Navigate service Posts: 84 Pioneering
    Well done!  Keep going and don't give up  :)
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  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,652 Disability Gamechanger
    This is great news @dredman!! So happy for you both! I'll keep my fingers crossed!
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