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Paying for a parents care home

So, how do I deal with this. My mother lives in a care home with chronic dementia. My father has taken over her financial responsibilities and the DWP pay her 'money' into his account where he subsequently pays the care home. This arrangement is mostly satisfactory for him. I was wondering, if the worse was to happen and my father passed away, how I would deal with the finances. Bearing in mind I am claiming ESA/HB/CTR, would I have to have my mums 'money' paid into my account, because that's income isn't it?
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Finances can be difficult with an elderly parent. If you should have to take on this role for your mother there are ways for you to manage her finances. A Power of Attorney is probably not suitable as you mentioned chronic dementia. There is such a thing as becoming a Deputy which involves applying to the Court of Protection.
There are online articles giving you advice on how to proceed which were a great help to me or if you have access to a solicitor they will take you through the process.Be warned though it is not free so you will have to pay fees for this. It is just one avenue to explore. I am no legal expert so please research your options carefully beforehand.
Age U.K. will probably have an application pack they can send you that’s where I got ours.
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I think you would need to contact DWP closer to the time as regulations seem to change that quickly these days it’s impossible to know this in advance. Or maybe speak to the finance officer at the care home they will be able to point you in the right direction for professional advice. As this is only a forum no one here will be able to give this kind of advice.Sorry I can’t be of more help.
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Interesting times ahead me thinks?
My problem is that there is very little information available. On the last few time I've used CAB they have merely googled information while I sat there and watched. I also suspect that lawyers specialising in benefits, would not be cheap?
Thank you for all the advice, I'm not trying to be difficult but it is what it is?