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Help to deal with change

Woolllams2019 Member Posts: 2 Listener
edited June 2020 in Education
Hey I'm sophie Im 28 years old and i've been diagnosed with fibromyalgia and I have dyspraxia and dyslexia and dyscaluia and also depression and is going to university in September and im moving house as well and I dont deal with changes and I'm looking to chat to people who can give me pointers on dealing with changes in a positive way


  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 8,572

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    Hi @Woolllams2019. It sounds like you’ve got a lot going on, but also some exciting changes coming up. What will you be studying at university?
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  • Ails
    Ails Member Posts: 2,256 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Woolllams2019 and welcome to the Community.  How are you today?  It's nice to meet you and thank you for sharing with us.  Oh wow, you have a lot going on at the moment which I can appreciate will be making you feel a bit anxious, but please try to remember that starting university and moving house means that you are moving on to an exciting new chapter in your life.  Change can be difficult for anyone and it is only natural to be apprehensive about new things so it is important to remember that you won't be alone with this.  Especially so at university as there will be lots of "newbies" who will be feeling exactly the same way as you do.  I dreaded going to university at first as I was leaving home to live in student accommodation and starting something that was completely out of my comfort zone I felt.  Just try not to be too hard on yourself and embrace the way you are feeling by trying to remember that this will only be a temporary feeling until you settle down at university and meet new friends and get into the swing of lectures/tutorials and the student life.  The things that helped me when I felt anxious at first with uni was to set some goals for myself by meeting new friends on my course and where I lived and also by joining some clubs to take my mind off things a bit and to make me feel more secure with my new life.  I also tried not to feel too bad when I gave in to temptation to go home at the weekends as this would make me realise that I still had my family/friends at home, but also had my new life at uni too.  In a matter of weeks my anxiety about uni had disappeared and I was feeling much better about things there.  With moving house, it will also be a big change, but just think that you will be moving into a place that is yours and you can stamp your own identity on it.  You will meet new neighbours, you can have your family/friends to visit and it will be a place where you have your own space.  It is exciting and hopefully you will have many years of happiness there.  I think the key to remember is that it is ok not to like change, but rather to embrace new challenges.  

    I hope that helps a bit and I wish you all the very best both with your house move and going on to university.  I'm sure you will be just fine and love them both equally!  Some of our other members may also have some advice for you too as everyone is very supportive and friendly on here.  Please remember that you can chat to us anytime if you are feeling a bit anxious about things as we are here to support you and there will always be someone on here to chat to and listen.  You are not alone with this.  Please keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on.  All the best.  :smiley:

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  • steve51
    steve51 Member Posts: 7,154 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Woolllams2019

    Good Evening it’s great to meet you today.

    Wow you are going to be a busy bee ? 

    I do hope that you get some pointers from our many members.

    If you want me to have a good look around our current info to see if there’s anything on our site that might be useful for you please let me know????

  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community Co-Production Group Posts: 12,265 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Woolllams2019 - Welcome to the community, & thank you for joining. I hope Ails' insight is helpful, as I was able to continue living at home as the best place for me to study outside of London was my home city.
    My son dislikes change, but, having made some, found them more positive. Whilst living at home too, he also made new friends at both 6th form college, & Uni. He found people with similar interests to himself (he's a bit of a computer geek), so sharing that helped him make some friends, & he's not good at socialising. You'll be with people at Uni who are interested in studying your chosen field. You'll meet others too on different courses, but you're all there to learn more, which is, I feel, always a positive thing. :)

  • Woolllams2019
    Woolllams2019 Member Posts: 2 Listener
    Hi @Woolllams2019. It sounds like you’ve got a lot going on, but also some exciting changes coming up. What will you be studying at university?
    I'm gonna be studying performing arts at university 
  • Chloe_Scope
    Chloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,557 Disability Gamechanger
    Great to have you here @Woolllams2019! I really hope you enjoy your performing arts course!

    Going to uni can be a big change. Things that I found helpful was to chat online with people I was moving in with, talking to lecturers about how they could support me.

    You also might want to look at disability student allowance. You could be entitled to support and/or equipment which could help with the translation. 

    Please do let us know how you get on. :)


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