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Aspergers and body dysmorphic disorder ( regarding face/hair )

fairybellsxofairybellsxo Member Posts: 44 Courageous
edited August 2020 in Autism and Aspergers
Hello Everybody, I hope everybody is okay.

I have searched high and low for articles where these two conditions are linked together but can't find anything :( So I thought id come and ask on here.

I have suffered with body image issues from the age of 12, I remember we went on a camping trip with primary school and all the other girls would just wake up! be all exited and just go and start the day, I was up before everybody in the changing room trying to make my hair look ' right 'and worrying about how I looked for the day of activities ahead, I was never bullied for my appearance or how I looked at any point but I had these obsessive rituals in place, particularly surrounding my hair.

I have spent years and years feeling this way and obsessing over perfection I feel may be part of my condition but it has manifested in me obsessing over my appearance.

Does anybody else obsess over their appearance/ perfection? to a point where it get's in the way of them enjoying their day? and what would your advice be for struggling for this kind of thing?

Here is a link describing everything I feel/go through on a day to day basis-
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/body-dysmorphia/





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  • Adrian_ScopeAdrian_Scope Testing team Posts: 7,934

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    Hi @fairybellsxo. I have no idea whether the two are actually linked in any way but I have read quite extensively on both subjects and have definitely come across many suggestions that they are linked. I've not admitted this outside of my immediate family before but I have BDD so can relate somewhat to what you've said.

    It's frankly exhausting to live with and feeds on your anxieties. I avoid mirrors and photographs wherever I can (my profile picture here is a source of constant anxiety!) and have found the surge in video calls over the past few months really difficult to deal with as a result. I can't relax while the camera is on.

    Have you spoken to a professional about this? Often CBT is recommended.
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  • fairybellsxofairybellsxo Member Posts: 44 Courageous
    Somebody who understands finally! It is absolutely exhausting constantly feeling like you don't look good enough, I wake up every single morning feeling sick and my entire wardrobe is a mirror :( It is so hard being conscious about how I look on-top of the social issues I can sometimes experience with autism, It's mentally exhausting.

    I too avoid photographs and mirrors and I absolutely hate getting ready as it takes me absolutely forever trying to make myself feel 'comfortable '..

    I have spoken with a professional I need to start counselling again so that I can get on top of it, I just feel knowing me and what Im like, only I will be able to break myself from this cycle.

    Here if you need to chat about it too, I tend to keep it a secret from people due to not wanting to seem vain. 

    Having taken a look at your picture myself :) I can honestly say that you have an attractive face and a lovely smile! And I would consider you a very attractive individual, but what you see won't match up to what others say due to the way the condition works :( but try to tell yourself it's just your own head and it's not TRUE, that's what I try to do.



  • Adrian_ScopeAdrian_Scope Testing team Posts: 7,934

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    An entire wardrobe as a mirror doesn't sound like a lot of fun. I find it tough to get ready as well and only really have a handful of different clothes because I find most clothes quite uncomfortable and if I to try any on in a changing room, I wouldn't end up buying them!

    I think you're probably right about having to conquer this by yourself, but having counselling and admitting that this is even something you experience are all positive steps and ways of tackling the issue. It's unfortunate that it's often misconstrued as vanity. All I ever really want is to not stand out at all!

    Thank you for your advice. I'll try to bear it in mind! :lol:
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  • fairybellsxofairybellsxo Member Posts: 44 Courageous
    Hello Adrian!

    It really isn't it means I can spend hours and hours just pre-occupied, I have exactly the same issue myself I only have a handful of things I feel like I look nice/comfortable in and I never end up buying things in a changing room!

    Me and my boyfriend went clothes shopping a little while ago before a night out and! I just took a deep breath and walked out and past everyone and asked what he thought, I find little uncomfortable challenges help build my confidence but Im honestly nowhere near there yet :( as much as I wish I could be.

    I get the standing ' out ' comment too as it feels like all eyes are on you when your not feeling confident :) Just know that you are more than your eyes/brain tells you.

    All the best.

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