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Coping With Erectile Dysfunction

josh1960
josh1960 Member Posts: 1 Listener
I am a 60 year old man with diabetes,and suffers with erectile dysfunction for last seven years.My wife and i have tried evrything,pills ect,but nothing has helped,the stress of not feeling a real man has had a terrible effect on our relationship,including deep depression,thoughts of ending my life,paranoia that my wife maybe seeking a sexual relationship elsewhere.I Thought that after our children grew up and flew the nest,we would have more time for each other,and in the begining life was perfect,our sex life was incredible,but one day things stopped working,at first i saw it as maybe stress,we spoke to our doctor,i was put on a course of viagra,and at first they seemed to work,but then stopped working altogether,during the times the viagra was working,my wife had noticed that there was no ejaculation of semen,we spoke to the doctor who said that this condition is called retro-ejaculation,a condition that stops semen from ejaculating,and infact the semen ends up in the bladder.Life has become worse as the years since,my wife and i do not discuss my problem anymore,i feel she is fed up with it and has given up,i dont approach the subject for fear of upsetting her,so here we are,two chess pieces on a board,neither of us wanting to move,both stuck in a very loving relationship,but neither full-filled sexualy.

Comments

  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 12,876 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi and welcome to the community, I know this condition can be a side effect of the diabetes, have you spoke to your diabetic nurse about this or maybe another specialist . I know there are other medications and solutions other than viagra available but I am no expert 
    I have professional experience in HR within public,  private, and charity sectors.  If I can help I will 
  • Chloe_Scope
    Chloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,565 Disability Gamechanger
    edited June 2020
    Hi @josh1960 and a warm welcome to the community. I'm really sorry this has caused you to have thoughts about ending your life. Have you currently got any support for this? 

    Relate is an organisation that has loads of advice and support, they also aim to make resources which will be useful for everyone. They have a page about help with sex and the different support that is available. Is this something you would like to discuss with your partner?

    The NHS also have information about erectile dysfunction
    Scope

  • woodbine
    woodbine Community Co-Production Group Posts: 5,659 Disability Gamechanger
    When the current crisis is over ask you GP to refer you to the local ED clinic at your hospital, they have a number of ways in which they can help non of them involving viagra and most with a pretty high success rate.
    I am a person with epilepsy not an epileptic, my illness doesn't define me.
  • RyanMason
    RyanMason Member Posts: 7 Listener
    edited September 14
    I  think you'd better consult a specialist. They may suggest more effective techniques for treatment. Don't worry. You will definitely find a way to bring heat back to your sex life.  If visiting a doctor is not convenient to you, you can talk to a doctor online about your problem.
     Here you can register for online health services: (Removed by moderator, medical advice)
  • leeCal
    leeCal Member Posts: 4,340 Disability Gamechanger
    This thread is over a year old, how did you get on @josh1960?

    I'm a bit of a conspiracy theorist...as if you didn't know.


  • Ross_Scope
    Ross_Scope Posts: 5,461

    Scope community team

    Hi @RyanMason

    Thanks for posting your reply, hopefully the OP finds the information you included helpful. I just wanted to let you know that I have removed the link from your post because I don't think it would be appropriate for us to signpost somebody to an online proscription service, that information is best coming from a person's GP. Furthermore, in accordance with our community house rules we should not give medical advice, though I appreciate you were being helpful.
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