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Coping With Erectile Dysfunction

josh1960josh1960 Member Posts: 1 Listener
I am a 60 year old man with diabetes,and suffers with erectile dysfunction for last seven years.My wife and i have tried evrything,pills ect,but nothing has helped,the stress of not feeling a real man has had a terrible effect on our relationship,including deep depression,thoughts of ending my life,paranoia that my wife maybe seeking a sexual relationship elsewhere.I Thought that after our children grew up and flew the nest,we would have more time for each other,and in the begining life was perfect,our sex life was incredible,but one day things stopped working,at first i saw it as maybe stress,we spoke to our doctor,i was put on a course of viagra,and at first they seemed to work,but then stopped working altogether,during the times the viagra was working,my wife had noticed that there was no ejaculation of semen,we spoke to the doctor who said that this condition is called retro-ejaculation,a condition that stops semen from ejaculating,and infact the semen ends up in the bladder.Life has become worse as the years since,my wife and i do not discuss my problem anymore,i feel she is fed up with it and has given up,i dont approach the subject for fear of upsetting her,so here we are,two chess pieces on a board,neither of us wanting to move,both stuck in a very loving relationship,but neither full-filled sexualy.


  • janer1967janer1967 Member Posts: 9,159 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi and welcome to the community, I know this condition can be a side effect of the diabetes, have you spoke to your diabetic nurse about this or maybe another specialist . I know there are other medications and solutions other than viagra available but I am no expert 
  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,652 Disability Gamechanger
    edited June 2020
    Hi @josh1960 and a warm welcome to the community. I'm really sorry this has caused you to have thoughts about ending your life. Have you currently got any support for this? 

    Relate is an organisation that has loads of advice and support, they also aim to make resources which will be useful for everyone. They have a page about help with sex and the different support that is available. Is this something you would like to discuss with your partner?

    The NHS also have information about erectile dysfunction
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  • woodbinewoodbine Member Posts: 3,749 Disability Gamechanger
    When the current crisis is over ask you GP to refer you to the local ED clinic at your hospital, they have a number of ways in which they can help non of them involving viagra and most with a pretty high success rate.
    my advice is given freely and is correct to the best of my knowledge.
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