How are you finding socialising post-lockdown?

chiarieds

Thank you @WestHam06 - & my best wishes that your operation is successful.

Cher_Alumni

Good luck for your operation @WestHam06
We are all here to talk to whenever you need us 

Tori_Scope

I hope the operation goes well @WestHam06  

WestHam06

@chiarieds, @Cher_Scope, @Tori_Scope, 
                                                                     Thank you so much for the best wishes, it really means a lot. It is the first of two operations I require, each for different reasons. I feel very lucky and fortunate to be looked after by the wonderful NHS, they have been absolutely amazing this year, but that said they are amazing every day of every year. They are so committed to their job and so humble. Thank you. 

janer1967

GOOD LUCK @WestHam06 and a speedy recovery if you are bored in hospital we can always try and cheer you up

WestHam06

Hi @janer1967, 
                          Thank you for your kind words, I greatly appreciate them. This first operation is hopefully only day surgery all being well but I may take you up on that for my second one  Thank you, the community always does cheer me up and you are all so kind Thank you. 

Geoark

I am very happy to continue my anti social isolation 

Parrot123

Cher_Scope said:

Ahh that's a real shame @leeCal

Are you still booking to go to the meeting where you can?  Yep, it's taking some adjusting to isn't it. 

Cher, I have been shielding since January. I'm a cancer patient shielding in remission. I also have chronic kidney disease. And chronic asthma. What am I supposed to be doing???? I am so confused ? Will x

newborn

Solitary confinement isolated in a flat since early in the year, and not expecting any change possibly  for another year,  if I live that long.   Can't access much missed open air, bird song, allotment,  health care, dentist, optician, audiologist, mole clinic despite previous melanoma.   Wish there was a kind of tuk tuk system in u.k. ,  to put the passenger apart from the driver.   A few people ring, and there are online grocery systems.  Maybe like Geoark,? it's  actually quite restful to be isolated, if there isn't  a person who loves and supports you, because people can sometimes seem to need a lot of attention and effort(!).

Parrot123

newborn said:

Solitary confinement isolated in a flat since early in the year, and not expecting any change possibly  for another year,  if I live that long.   Can't access much missed open air, bird song, allotment,  health care, dentist, optician, audiologist, mole clinic despite previous melanoma.   Wish there was a kind of tuk tuk system in u.k. ,  to put the passenger apart from the driver.   A few people ring, and there are online grocery systems.  Maybe like Geoark,? it's  actually quite restful to be isolated, if there isn't  a person who loves and supports you, because people can sometimes seem to need a lot of attention and effort(!).

Hello you. I know exactly how you are feeling. I have been shielding since January. Chin up. We will get thru this. Dance tiktok x

newborn

Hi Parrot....now, that's  what I call a hairstyle !! Isolated or not, you  do know how to party!

Parrot123

@newborn I wisny wearing a wig lol ? so I bought that.. tiktok dance I canny stop dancing. Take care lovely x

Parrot123

Cher_Scope said:

@OverlyAnxious
You aren't alone in feeling this way.  There are such varying perceptions of social distancing about that it's very hit and miss going places.  I'm sorry you feel unable to go to the outdoor events but I understand.  It's important you feel comfortable and are able to enjoy them.

I'm too scared to go out.
I am in Scotland

Parrot123

Cher_Scope said:

@janer1967 I'm glad you are accompanied to keep you safe.  

@WestHam06 It sounds like face masks are working well but the face visors (or shields) are a good alternative if you start having difficulties being understood.  Are you meeting up with your friends soon again?

I want to go out. But if I be totally honest. I am too afraid. Anxiety is thru the roof. Been in here since January. I want my life back. All my appointments are cancelled . I want to walk my wee dog . How do I explain to a dog. I canny take him a walk. Sorry I am off on one. I need to get out I need to push myself. Aye I have masks visor gloves aprons. As I care for my Nephew. And he is my Carer. Take care all. Tiktok dance try it brilliant xxxxxx

Cher_Alumni

Hi @Parrot123

I can totally understand you having anxiety and a lot of our members feel the same.  The Cancer Research UK website has a brilliant webpage on Coronavirus Shielding Advice that provides advice on what to do in your position and I'd really recommend reading it.

Have you spoken to your hospital team about what they recommend?  If not, I'd speak with them as they are best placed to let you know whats safe.

It's definitely important to start going back outside at your own pace and a time when you feel comfortable to do it, so try and be easy on yourself and take it a day at a time.  I love how much you love Tiktok!  Do you go on it much?  I've never used it 

Parrot123

Hello Cher, I am getting told different things from different hospitals. As I'm also a kidney disease patient. I agree with you do it when I am ready. Ty. Tiktok no I just learned the dance then deleted it. Very sad. Some of it is brilliant. But lots of sad people on it. Because of covid. You may enjoy it. You can get the dance on YouTube. I didn't feel safe on tiktok take care xx

Parrot123

Jaanu38 said:

I used to enjoy going out but I'm still really nervous about it even now. I have a social distancing lanyard but people still don't keep a safe distance or wear masks. It's terrifying to think you can still pick up the virus even though locally the levels seem to be reducing. 

I totally agree with you lovely. I went for my car's 1st Not. Walked in people everywhere looking at cars. No masks. I took a panic attack and left my car with the dealer. Today I get a letter from motobility telling me that my insurance has been extended for 6  months. Trying to sort it out any advice much appreciated Will ?

MobileGames

I'm finding it hard. I wear a mask every time I go out. I constantly worry about my vulnerable mum and my dad,both over 70. My dad is having an ebus on the 9th because a shadow has been found on his lung during a CT Scan last month. He has to stop Clopidogrel for the procedure.
     I like the fact that masks need to be worn in shops. I've been in 5 shops since mid August. I feel more at ease and safer. The shopping gets delivered anyway and they leave it on the doorstep. I put a note up on the door explaining that my mum is vulnerable. A few weeks ago the postman went to hand me a parcel whilst I was bringing the shopping in and I had to put my hand up and tell him not to come any closer please. I felt bossy,but I need to try to protect my mum,dad and myself.
      I started seeing 2 of my friends in early August. I wear a mask there. If I need a drink,I use my own mug and I go further away to drink it,then put my mask back on. When nipping to the toilet I wear disposable gloves and wipe down the seat and lid,dispose of them,go to the toilet,then wipe the seat,lid and the flush button again. I then turn the tap on with kitchen paper,throw that away,wash my hands,dry them with kitchen paper,throw it away, then open the door with kitchen paper and throw that away. When going over,my bag consists of 3 disposable masks,3 pairs of disposable gloves,antibacterial wipes,hand sanitiser,kitchen roll,2 plastic bags and my own mug. When I get home I sanitise my hands,take the mask off,put it in a plastic bag,then into the general waste bin,then wipe my hands with hand wipes,open the door with my elbow,come in and wash my hands,then lock the door. My anxiety goes sky high,but I need to do this otherwise I don't feel safe. I'll be glad when a vaccine comes out. The whole think makes me very anxious. 

WestHam06

Hi all, 
         Hope all is well with everyone. Just a quick message for those of you who kindly wished me luck for my operation. I'm now at home recovering, thank you so much for your best wishes, it's very kind of you and I greatly appreciate them. Thank you.

Tori_Scope

I'm really glad you're okay @WestHam06! Wishing you all the best with your recovery.