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Behavouir in children

abbeycat1abbeycat1 Member Posts: 1 Listener
I have an elleven year old child being accessed for altsim he hasn’t been diagnosed yet still waiting he can be nice when he chooses to be But I’m finding he becoming more ruder recently and I don’t always stick to taking things away but I am now and I do find it help at times with his behavouir but he can be swear and shout when he don’t get what he wants and also if I say he can’t go out on his bike he will go anyway what to people advice I thinking of taking things away he live for awhile until I se good behavouir at all times just to rule out if this actually works it might show him who boss then me not him he only elleven 

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  • Ross_ScopeRoss_Scope Posts: 4,240

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    edited November 2020
    Hello @abbeycat1 and welcome to the community.

    Sorry to hear about the difficulties you're going through with your son, it sounds stressful.

    Has your GP or health specialist who is dealing with the diagnosis advised on any methods of coping in the meantime?

    I have moved your discussion to our parents category by the way :) 
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  • poppy123456poppy123456 Member Posts: 22,218 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi and welcome,

    My daughter has Autism and wasn't diagnosed until she was 17 but i always knew she had it, from a very early age.

    If he does have Autism then he may not even realise he's being rude to you because alot of this is part of ASD. Most of the time they don't even realise they have this "attitude" My daughter is 19 now and quite often she has a really bad atttitude towards me and when she does, i'll tell her, Although her reply is "what attitude" I don't know what you mean.

    I've found over the years that routine is the most important thing, this way they get to know what's happening and when. Does he have a routine?

    I don't think taking things away from him is the answer here because otherwise you'll only make the situation worse, although he must know that he can't always have everything he wants. It's a difficult situation to be in.

    Having a little understanding of what ASD is and the way people react is extremely helpful and will help you both quite a lot. I know he hasn't been diagnosed yet but doing som research will help you. I'll put a few links up so that you can at least have a read.

    You could also speak to his GP to ask for some advice or maybe they can refer you to someone who will be able to help you, although i know referrals will be extremely difficulty due to Covid. Any contact will very likely be through telephone calls.

    Hope this helps.


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  • janer1967janer1967 Member Posts: 11,205 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi I hope you find the information given of some help

    How does he behave in school is it just with you that he is rude you often find with any kids it is those closest to them that they display the challenging behaviour to 

    Good luck and I hope you get some support    
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Posts: 5,039

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    Welcome to the community @abbeycat1 :) How are you today?

    Have you managed to take a look at the information above?
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