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Struggling on a daily basis and my depression is getting worse
i suffer from chronic pain. I have two slipped disc in my neck and i have a should injury which cannot be fixed. I have had both injuries for around six years now. They were hoping to fix the shoulder injury a couple of years ago but two days before the operation it was cancelled as they were worried about losing me on the operating table. This was due to the slipped disc in my neck. I went for a second opinion and they told me that it could not be done as the risk was too high.
I normally have injections twice a year that give me around one month pain free. I am 50 years of age and no longer feel like a man. My wife does everything for and even ask to take me to the toilet due to the pain the stairs causes me when i hold onto the rail. At the moment because of covid it is not safe for me to have the injections. i have injections into my shoulder and i also have a dangerous one where they go through my neck under xray.
I suffer from depression because of my injuries. We saved for many years to buy a cheap caravan due to my injuries as it is all on one level and we would go there for a couple of days a week to give me rest. However, the sites are closed until March if we are lucky and i am struggling to cope.
Because of the pain that i go through going up and down the stairs i put off going to the toilet and can keep it in normally for around four to five hours. I was rushed into hospital a few months ago with kidney stones and the doctor told me delaying going to the toilet is not doing my kidneys any good.
Today i feel real **** because i am in so much pain. i am on naproxen and pregabalin i think it is called. I was on gabapentin but it was making me go to sleep and the pregabalin make me feel tired.
In an ideal world i would love to have a toilet downstairs but we do not have the money to build a tiny extension for a toilet. My wife has said about a stair lift but that would make me feel even more worthless.
I am just wondering how people deal with chronic pain. Everyday is a battle. I am not allowed to pick anything heavier than a bag of sugar up. If i try and do the hoovering it causes me so much pain. If i lift a plate up it causes me pain. I put off eating because eating causes me pain.
It makes me feel so bad watching my wife do everything for me. she never stops all day long. she reduced her hours at work so she could be here with me, so financially we struggle. My wife is always telling me to sit down whe i try and do something, and it kills me to see her doing everything.
I was under a great small hospital but because of covid19 they had to transfer all their pain management patients to a service called inhealth which i am not impressed with. they do over the phone consultations and they are going against everything that i have been taught for many years.
Has anyone got any advice of how to deal with chronic pain
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