Do employers generally lack the ability to provide meaningful support.

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SpecGZero81

I include my ASC diagnosis on my CV and am open and honest about my requirements and triggers for maximum transparency, otherwise how can your employer even begin to attempt to understand your condition and offer support?

Unfortunately every single employer I've been this way with since my diagnosis has paid me lip-service by telling me they want to work with me or that they know someone who has ASC but never actually doing anything that benefits me, instead labelling me as the problem when they in fact have simply ignored my attempts at communication and managing triggers.

They may well genuinely think they have tried but ultimately their minimal efforts do nothing to manage triggers which then results in me becoming abrasive and outspoken, which then leads to conflicts or meltdowns and ultimately depression.

At my last job for example, I told them that I need to work in a specific manner during projects and they assigned me to a colleague who completely ignored this and not only didn't communicate with me and the client well at all, but wasn't capable of planning and would ask me the same stupid questions about the status of said project, which he should have already known given that he was the project manager - part of my system of working includes a way for everyone involved in the project to view a checklist of tasks and their associated status but apparently it's easier just to ask me stupid questions.

One time he called me an hour before a meeting that no-one told me about, while I was in the middle of another important and time sensitive task, to tell me about said meeting.

This resulted in a meltdown that then bled over to a call with the CEO who I had to call immediately afterward, which then resulted in a written warning being issued with zero notice; they literally called me into a meeting and handed me letter, which then made me very angry indeed.

Needless to say that because they'd ignored my communication over the six month probation period they had to then deal with behaviours they didn't like and so three weeks ago after allowing me to work for an hour on a Thursday morning, I'm called into a meeting and am told it's not working and that I'm being let go.

It's been a similar story over the past three roles I've had since my diagnosis.

I tell them everything I feel will help both myself and my employer.

Get fed some story about them knowing someone with ASC and that they will provide support.

The employer then makes minimal effort to offer meaningful support then proceeds to label me as a problem when I start displaying unwanted behaviours so they then either want to get rid of me or my mental health will suffer negatively to the point of depression (which usually involves time off).

Is this a common experience?

In my experience it seems that management just want someone to fit in and don't want to make any effort to even learn the basics about ASC, let alone making changes to prevent mental health issues.

I provide them with the same resource I used when first diagnosed, nothing technical, just the basics from a trusted website.

What else can i possibly do?

Sandy_123

@SpecGZero81 welcome to the forum, I can understand your frustration in getting  support. Are you in work now? Might be worth getting referred to oc health within your work place, who can inform your managers of reasonable adjustments to suit your needs.