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Struggling with my dad teaching me how to drive.

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FadiMRB
FadiMRB Community member Posts: 1 Listener
edited May 2021 in Transport and travel
Hello, so I have a problem with learning driving. So, i’m being taught to drive by my dad, and usually it goes well, until I do a mistake, get yelled at and as a result get stressed and feel a lot of pressure, which is why i overcommit and make more mistakes. Usually when no one is telling me anything I drive well since I imagine that I’m by myself, yet I can’t do that if I’m getting yelled at for doing something wrong, since my self confidence is also taking a hit. I find it sort of hard to learn anything in a one on one session, especially by my parents. What should I do in this case ?

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  • woodbine
    woodbine Community member Posts: 12,129 Disability Gamechanger
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    @FadiMRB welcome to scope, two options really talk to your dad tell him how you feel and how you would like the lessons to go or pay a driving instructor to give you lessons.

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  • janer1967
    janer1967 Community member Posts: 21,964 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi there 

    I wouldn't recommend being taught to drive by a parent you are too close 

    Also your best chance is by a professional as they know all the right techniques and no doubt a long time since your dad learnt and everyone picks up bad habits 

    Learning to drive us a one on one session and you can try and find an instructor that understands your learning ability 
  • Cher_Alumni
    Cher_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,734 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hello @FadiMRB and welcome to our online community.  I hope you are having a nice day.

    I can resonate with your story so much, as to this day my mother (non-driver) tries to tell me how to drive despite me having passed some 20 odd years ago.  It's funny *sometimes* but also knocks my confidence, and like you, I over compensate and inevitably make more mistakes. 

    I would have definitely struggled being taught by a loved one and I think the suggestions put to you on this thread are wise; if you can afford a driving instructor then consider exploring that, whereas if this isn't feasible, having an open conversation with your dad about how his reactions make you feel may make him aware of something he's otherwise oblivious to.  What do you think to these ideas?

    Just to let you know, I've moved your post to our Motability, blue badges and disabled motoring category and tweaked the title to help others better understand what it's about :)  Good luck with your learning and please let us know how you get on.  
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  • trio
    trio Community member Posts: 27 Listener
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    Hi I am being taught to drive at the moment  by an instuctor paid for by the motability people i got my car through ,witch is working out well but when i practice with my carer in the car its awful ,he is too impaitant and trys to push me too much so now i say just sit and help when i ask , see if you qualify for help  goos luck 
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