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Am I right or am I wrong

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  • Ross_Alumni
    Ross_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,652 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @bekindalways and welcome back

    Thanks for posting, it seems as though you've got a lot on at the minute, and I hope other members will be able to offer their suggestions.

    Firstly congratulations on having the family wedding upcoming, hopefully it goes well. 

    Is she aware of how you feel about your husband's sister and mother? And how does your husband feel about it? 

    Can I ask, what do you mean by "My husband has taken this predicament out on me tonight and I don't know what to do or say anymore" ?
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  • leeCal
    leeCal Community member Posts: 7,550 Disability Gamechanger
    I would go with my gut feeling about the matter, however, sometimes we need to stretch ourselves in order to grow. Sometimes we need some sandpaper to smooth the timber of our minds, to round off some of the rough edges and people who challenge us can be that sandpaper as long as we approach them with a learning attitude.

    Having said those things it’s important that we don’t over stretch ourselves and this is one thing that only you know in your heart. Best wishes ?

    “This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart is the temple. Your philosophy is simple kindness.” 
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  • janer1967
    janer1967 Community member Posts: 21,964 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi there 

    Difficult one concerned first about what you mean your husband has taken it out on you 

    Weddings in my opinion get too commercial and we forget it is a special day for the bride and groom and we should try and put our own issues aside it is for them to decide who comes 

    I do totally get where you are coming from I dread my son getting married and seeing his dad with his new family that he left me for but I know my son will want us all there including his half siblings 
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  • Cher_Alumni
    Cher_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,741 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @bekindalways

    I don't think we've 'spoke' before so it's lovely to meet you and it's great to hear about your step daughter's upcoming special day.  I too understand how family conflicts can make weddings challenging and if you feel that stepping back is the best choice for you, then go with your gut.  It's a thoughtful touch that you are making the wedding cake and I hope your husband can enjoy the day in some way <3

    I've edited out a word you used as, although I know you perhaps intended it in humour, it could read as offensive to some.  Here's a link to our house rules for more about content that is and isn't allowed.   

    I hope you have a great Bank Holiday Monday and the weather is sunny where you are.  Take care. 
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