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Helping a sibling who's dealing with anger, regret, and frustration
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c_c_c
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Hello.
i hope this finds everyone well at this challenging time. I am new to this forum & asking if any good resources for people with CP dealing with anger, regret and frustration in their mid life (40s). My sibling is really struggling and, living with our parents, directing anger at people closest to them. They have been stuck in a loop for over 20 years and it’s getting harder as their parents get unwell with age. They don’t accept the need for any mental health support. Any advice welcome & appreciated. Thanks.
i hope this finds everyone well at this challenging time. I am new to this forum & asking if any good resources for people with CP dealing with anger, regret and frustration in their mid life (40s). My sibling is really struggling and, living with our parents, directing anger at people closest to them. They have been stuck in a loop for over 20 years and it’s getting harder as their parents get unwell with age. They don’t accept the need for any mental health support. Any advice welcome & appreciated. Thanks.
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It’s actually a problem we experienced as a family eighteen months ago. One of my sons has cerebral palsy but manages to do a job and in his early thirties became very frustrated with life and took it out on us. Things became impossible and we had to ask him to leave. Eventually he did and he looks after himself reasonably well now. We have downsized since then so there no going back,
it may be that @Richard_Scope could help though so he will see this tag and should reply.“This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart is the temple. Your philosophy is simple kindness.”
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With thanks for sharing your experiences @leeCal - I am sure that was a difficult time for you all.
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I must admit one of the reasons we downsized was to stop any possibility of the kids ever wanting to come home after they had left.2024 The year of the general election...the time for change is coming 💡
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Hi and welcome to the community from me too
Must be difficult for all of them maybe a chat with the 9atenrs about getting him more independent in prep for when they can't care for him -
Hi @c_c_c
Thanks for posting and welcome.
I'm sorry to read that your family are going through this situation. I can recommend cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), I have completed a course of the therapy and found it very beneficial. I can also suggest contacting Liz Whiteley Counselling and Psychotherapy. Liz lives with CP too and this gives her a great insight in to the issues we face with the condition. Of course the success of any of these options is dependant on your sibling wanting to engage with the process.
I would also be very happy to have a chat with your sibling.Scope
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Hi @c_c_c,
Welcome to the community and thank you for joining us. I'm sorry to read of the difficulties your family is facing, it's not easy for anyone involved. I can see that you have already had some good advice, I would also recommend some form of professional emotional support, though I appreciate with something like this, it has to be the person who decides this is right for them. I know when I reached out for help, it was when I was ready despite encouragement for a couple of years. Please, if I may, can I ask, is your sibling part of any community groups where others can relate to their experiences? An example could be the online community here on Scope. There is also a café for over 25's which Scope runs with CP Sport, it's virtual and happens fortnightly. Please if you have any questions do ask, we are a friendly and supportive community. Thank you -
With thanks all for your helpful posts and care - I will check out the support forums and specialists - and encourage her to do the same. Wishing all a good weekend when it arrives, With thanks
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Hi @c_c_c,
How are you? How are things with your sibling? Please do let us know if there is anything further we can support with. Thank you. -
With thanks all for your helpful comments and kind thoughts. It’s pretty tough at the moment & I think we will all need some emotional and practical support. I will check out the link you’ve given and also the Scope forums - appreciated.
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I'm sorry to hear things are tough at the moment @c_c_c, but I'm glad to hear you'll be checking out the links. Is there anything else we could do to help?
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Hi @c_c_c
Would your sibling be open to having a chat with me at all?Scope
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