Hotels etc. for a fairly ambulant disabled but chronically sick person for a short break
I'd told the site to save my previous draft of a long post, but it hasn't, so I'll have to start again from scratch. Hey ho :-(
I'd like to ask the forum for input on trying to find some accommodation for a short break for a person who is technically ambulant disabled, but can't actually walk very far, sit upright unsupported for long or do much of anything else, as she easily gets worn out due to being chronically sick. She doesn't need a holiday service for the disabled or anything like that, just somewhere she can stay for a few days and have a bit of a rest/change of scenery, but I'm struggling to know where to start in these days when information is scattered over multiple websites.
Mobility: she can walk around indoors okay (assuming that "indoors" isn't too huge, as it might be in a hotel), but would need a wheelchair (and pusher) for distances of perhaps more than 15 metres or so. She also couldn't manage more than 1 flight of stairs per day.
Rooms: so realistically we're talking about a ground-floor room (or one up/down only a few steps) or one with lift access for her - and either en-suite or toilet/bathroom close by. It's going to need to be somewhere she can spend most of the day in if necessary, so preferably not some soulless identikit hotel room. It doesn't need to be a fully-equipped "disabled" room or anything, as long as we can get the wheelchair (folded) in there somewhere. (I'll also need a separate room or something - sofabed? - for myself, as our sleeping patterns aren't exactly compatible!)
Transport: we don't have any, so would need to use cabs or get a friend to give us a lift. The longer she travels, the more likely it is to adversely affect her condition, so we're looking for somewhere local (South London, to be precise). I'd need public transport to be able to go anywhere.
Catering: apart from breakfast, this may be tricky, as she's not going to be able to go out and eat in a restaurant, even a hotel one, so we might be reliant on having to order takeaways or something, which a hotel may not be keen on. Maybe something more like a studio room with a kitchenette would work better, but again, how do you find those?
People: lots of people she doesn't know, except in very small doses, could be very exhausting for her.
She'd like somewhere, maybe a quiet guesthouse or B&B, with a garden she could sit in. A retreat centre (without associated expensive courses) has been suggested, but again I'm struggling to find something. Self-catering would obviously be better for many reasons, but we live in a cramped flat as it is, and most of the self-catering locally seems to be in blocks of flats, so is far from ideal.
The problem, I think, is how to find the sort of places which might suit. It's so difficult when most websites seem to assume that customers come in standard packages and don't have specific specialised needs, so I'm finding filtering on appropriate venues very difficult. I don't think she fits any particular "disabled" profile for which venues and rooms might be designed, either. I'm surprised at how many accommodation websites don't even allow you to filter for e.g. ground-floor rooms, let alone anything more complex. Ironically, I think it might have been easier pre-internet, when virtually everything available accommodation-wise would have been listed in a publication from the local tourist board or whatever, and lifts, ground-floor rooms and the like would have been specifically mentioned!
It's incredibly late now, and I'm sure I haven't posted everything I need to tell you, but I'll post now and hopefully I can add extra information later as it occurs to me. If anyone has any recommendations/suggestions about where to look for the sort of information which might be useful, or anything else I might need to take into consideration, please do post. Thank you.