Hi, my name is Thedoc83! I have anxiety and depression, and struggle to break tasks down

Thedoc83

I have hidden disabilities which are clinical anxiety and depression.

Ross_Alumni

Hello @Thedoc83
Welcome to the community, good to see you join us and thank you for telling us a bit about yourself.

Do you receive any support to manage your anxiety and depression, such as from a GP or therapist?

chiarieds

Hi @Thedoc83 - & welcome to this friendly online community. We have many members with hidden disabilities, including anxiety & depression, so I'm sure you'll find a lot of understanding in this supportive group.

Thedoc83

I had therepy but I couldn't apply myself because I was so deep into my anxiety and depressive episodes. I am on medication. I have a mental health nurse but I just see myself as incapable of getting to grips with thongs and coping and dealing and doing and taking on things because I cannot take on or do too much 

Thedoc83

I panic and don't see things logically and break things down 

Thedoc83

I'll go e you an example..moving out...it.consits with alot of things and I don't know if I can do it or cope with it daily weekly etc 

chiarieds

Hi @Thedoc83 - as you've identified, sometimes all we can do is small steps, whether we have a physical or mental health problem, or both. My 'achievements' are small, & it can be do one thing in a day, then not another. So, just try small steps, not too much, just one small step at a time. It is logical to break things down, & not overwhelm ourselves in that there's too much that we can't consider getting through it. Small steps....

janer1967

Hi and welcome to the community from me too 

Tori_Scope

Hi @Thedoc83 Welcome to the community!

I'm sorry to hear that you've been experiencing anxiety and depression. You're right that it can be difficult to engage with talking therapy when you're in a dip, which is one reason why medication can be helpful for some people. You mentioned that you've been taking some medication, has that been helping at all? 

I know what you mean about finding it difficult to break tasks down, and therefore getting overwhelmed, as I experience this too. Is this something you've mentioned to your mental health nurse? Do you have any family or friends you could speak to to see if they could help you to break down tasks? Moving out is definitely a big one, so is there anything smaller you could use as practice in terms of breaking tasks down and taking small steps?

You're not incapable, it's just difficult for you right now due to your mental health. Try not to put yourself down over it, as it sounds as though you have a good awareness of what the problem is, and have been taking steps to try and improve your mental health

Just to let you know, I've moved your post into our category for discussions relating to mental health, and have tweaked the title of your post slightly to make it easier for others to find.

Thedoc83

I cannot imagine myself taking on doing everything dealing with everything coping with everything juggling Eveything for example work girlfriend kid house to look after and Eveything in between 

Thedoc83

I haveskon conditions I have to manage aswell

Thedoc83

I have skin conditions as well

Thedoc83

The medication is helping but o don't want to rely on it 

Thedoc83

The thought of everything coping dealing taking on doing and things that pop up you have to do overwhelms me and gets me anxious massively that I can't see myself improving my life 

Thedoc83

Life is not made to be easy and I just can't see myself taking everything on and coping 

Thedoc83

I dont think anyone gets it. I am brain wandering so much that I can't see myself doing and coping with things and it's not that I can't see and in the end I will cope and do things..I know myself I can't and I won't be able to 

Thedoc83

I am struggling through bow and my.lifr is easy because I have my mum around and my brother if I have to as act on my own accord make decisions be independent I will be out of my depth 

Ross_Alumni

Hi @Thedoc83

Thanks for your replies.

It's quite common for things such as having children, working and having a partner to cause worry, especially when trying to juggle them all at once. I'm sure everybody reading this has found it challenging at one point in time. It can be important to do things in manageable chunks, and only take on more responsibility once you're ready. 

Of course, whether you do those things is completely up to you, and you should take your time to only do them when you are ready, and in little steps. I understand your concerns that you will feel out of your depth if you are left to make decisions on your own, and it's clear how much stress this is causing you at the minute. It is possible to become more independent while maintaining a supportive presence around you, and that support can be crucial in developing independence, so I'm glad that you have your family alongside you.

Aside from your family members, do you receive any other support to manage your conditions? Is your GP aware of how you feel at the minute?

Thedoc83

My GP is aware which is why I am ok medication

Thedoc83

But even if I don't do all of those things I'll still need my own flat and to work and juggle things and do things and cope with things etc and even typing about it I feel anxious and out of my depth 

Ross_Alumni

Hi @Thedoc83

Thanks for your reply. Please ensure that you take care of your well-being, if typing about these things is causing you anxiety, it might be worth taking a break and relaxing, or maybe doing something you enjoy?

Have you ever considered referring yourself for a social care needs assessment through your local authority? In the event that you ever did live alone independently, you might be entitled to some level of care to help with things such as daily tasks.