Confrontation

snailpace

Hi everyone, I was wondering if it is just me. Just recently I have been struggling a bit and with people. Problems that aren’t directed at me but people involving me. I am a nervous person and don’t like conflict. 

leeCal

Life’s too short for conflict but sometimes others are so inflexible they force confrontation. There is a way to avoid it, tolerance and acceptance. I don’t mean just roll over, I mean accept another may have a different viewpoint to yourself, tolerate it and move on without capitulating. 

snailpace

@leeCal, yes, I agree, life is too short. I keep myself to myself and avoid getting involved with anything ( I am like that even with family), but people like to involve me. My support worker said to me today, to forget about what someone has said as it didn’t directly involve me, but now I am worrying that a few people might be funny with me. I know I am probably over thinking it, but this is how I have always been. I was told once I was too sensitive.

leeCal

I know what you mean about overthinking, I tend to do that sometimes too. I try to remember that I can’t please everyone all the time so someone is bound to be upset with me from time to time. The problem is theirs in that case not mine. If they want to be upset or angry about something I may have done or not done, said or not said,  they are harming themselves not me. Thinking more like this helps me to keep a mental balance.

snailpace

Thank you  for your reply @leeCal, reading your reply has really helped me. I agree that thinking more like this is better for my mental health. Thank you.

csno01

An interesting topic here. 

I feel the same way sometimes too. I can certainly relate to being sensitive. 

Elysium

Fight or flight is a trauma response. I really struggle in confrontation situations and tend to ‘fight’, but am trying to remove myself/walk away.