Quirks and Secrets

chloeblue04

Hello 

Have you ever wondered what it's like to keep a secret? Have you ever what it's like to understand and know your quirks? 

I never understood quirks in my youth but I know what it's like to keep a secret whether it is personal, private and confidential or very very important. 

I don't like revealing secrets which can lead to exposing them and that's what's worrying me. The rule for keeping secrets is that you can't breathe or speak a word about it and nobody must ever discover it. Imagine that you are making a tasty dish to impress your family and friends at a party and you add a key ingredient and if they asked "What is the secret ingredient?" You just say "I'm afraid that is classified". 

Or say you find a new place; a sanctuary; a new home a hideout where you can keep yourself hidden from strangers and prying eyes. 
If I had a secret hideout, I treat it as if I had my own treehouse- clean, organised and perfectly neat and tidy. 


We all had secrets and quirks and that's part of life. I'm sure that you all do understand don't you? 

Please reply to me when you are available 

From Chloe

Ross_Alumni

Hello @chloeknight16071992

I think everybody at some point in their life has kept a secret and perhaps not felt entirely comfortable about keeping it, or worried about giving it away, so I'm sure everybody will be able to empathise with you.

When it comes to revealing secrets I think it's important to recognise who you are telling them to, and whether you trust them. If you were worried about yourself, or somebody else, based on a secret you knew, and perhaps felt as though speaking to somebody would enable you or the other person to receive support, then it can be okay to speak about it.

Is there anything in particular that is making you worry at the minute? If you do ever want to have a chat with us you can email us at community@scope.org.uk.

chloeblue04

Yes there is. Thank god you understand what it's like. 

I was interested on having video chats with my friends but I'm worried that if my mother finds out she'll be furious and tell my dad on me. Two years ago I....................... I had a secret crush on someone else but it's very hard to hide my feelings from him and I'm scared. I would like to meet other people on the virtual coffee lounge that you were talking about but I'm too shy and anxious because I'm not allowed to talk to strangers at all times. 

I'll come and see you or anyone for a virtual coffee lounge if I'm free. I'll think about it. 

Don't worry I won't say a word about it to anyone. It'll be like a secret virtual club that I would join in. 

Ross_Alumni

Hi @chloeknight16071992

Thanks for your reply, I understand. What makes you think your parents would be unhappy with you taking part in the virtual coffee lounge, or speaking with friends through video chat? Is there any reason that you need to hide your feelings from your parents? 

You are more than welcome to join in the virtual coffee lounge, it is a forum based platform just like this and you can access it through the navigation bar at the top of the community.

chloeblue04

Well my mum thinks that I'm putting myself in danger. She's overprotective and strict. 

She said that I'm naive and vulnerable. My dad said that I'm childish. They are both worried that I'm putting myself in danger. 

I'll come and join in the virtual coffee lounge in the evenings.  

Ross_Alumni

Hi @chloeknight16071992

I see, thanks for your reply. It's understandable for parents to be cautious about their child getting involved with online community's such as this one. If it would help for them at all to contact us to discuss their concerns then they are more than welcome to contact us via email to discuss it.