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Trouble on the bus - over reaction?

MarkM88 Member Posts: 1,803 Pioneering
I witnessed quite an aggressive confrontation on the bus home today. 

A lad got on, sat down and a older male was looking over in that direction, I think personally he was just looking in that direction out the window but the lad who got on took offence. 

He stood up and shouted it’s illegal to stare at people. Was waving his hands and shouting. 

Felt sorry for the man who looked embarrassed. 

I thought the lad over reacted. Plus I don’t remember any law stating it’s illegal to stare at someone. 


  • woodbine
    woodbine Community Co-Production Group Posts: 5,285 Disability Gamechanger
    @MarkN88 i'm sure there is no such law, whilst not wanting to be judgemental the "lad" could have been on drugs.
    I am a person with epilepsy not an epileptic, my illness doesn't define me.
  • MarkM88
    MarkM88 Member Posts: 1,803 Pioneering
    Quite possibly. Hard to tell. I just felt awful for the man who was receiving all the abuse. 
  • mikehughescq
    mikehughescq Member Posts: 7,473 Disability Gamechanger
    The reality is that the person staring could have been staring and it could have been for a perfectly good reason you couldn't see. Simple as that.

    This is a perfect example of us not knowing what's really going on and yet being quick to judge. The very thing we would want no-one to do to us. I am surprised that the first reaction here from @woodbine would be "drugs". Why?

    If I had to start anywhere I would have gone with one or both being stressed being on a bus during a pandemic closely followed by one or both having some kind of mental health issue. Drugs would not be top of my list at all.  

    I make no apologies for saying that as someone who has no choice but to use public transport I have been surprised by my own anxiety levels. I am capable of pushing through and so off I went to the footy on Saturday to make myself finally make my previously frequent hour long bus journey plus to finish off with a 10 minute train journey, which was my first time on a train in 19 months. Long story short. The watching footy bit felt fine. The public transport did not. It is going to be a long time before I resume my old bus journeys and even longer before I go on a train journey home.
  • lisathomas50
    lisathomas50 Posts: 4,592 Disability Gamechanger
    Possibly could have mental health problems sorry woodbine but people are two quick to think people are on drugs people with dementia don't like people looking at them and react my mum does 

    People with paranoia and illnesses like that if it was and old person would someone say they could possibly be on drugs  ??? Just makeing a point @woodbine not haveing a go 


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