Going off driving
I know some may say “good” and to embrace it, but I am hoping for some support as driving is one of my only hobbies and it is a skill that is important to have especially if you don’t live in a city with good transport networks.
I used to really like driving and would go out daily for a drive. I would often go to a shop or something but often would just go for a drive. Now, I seem to be going off the activity. I don’t think it’s because I don’t like driving, I think it is because my issues seem to be imposing too many limitations on my ability to do it.
What worries me is that the scope of what I can do and where I can go seems to be slowly shrinking and I am worried that it will shrink further until I reach a point where I can no longer do it at all.
Firstly, I only drive with someone else in the car with me. I can’t see myself going out alone in the short or medium term and I am not overly sure it will ever happen but I am trying to remain optimistic for the long term.
Secondly, I don’t like driving on dual carriageways or motorways because I have obsessive thoughts about crashing the car on these roads. I am comfortable on smaller roads where it is possible to stop if needed, note that I have never had to stop, it’s just a safety net.
Thirdly, I used to go out quite far from home - to about a 50 mile radius. This has gradually shrunk over the years and now I am only really comfortable driving about 10-15 miles from home.
Fourthly, I am constantly worried about unexpected things happening like roads I intend to use being closed and having to follow a diversion.
Finally I find the social/cooperative aspect of driving hard and always worry about what I will do if I get into a situation that requires working with another driver to solve a situation like working out who will reverse on a single track road.
I am thinking that this is all confidence related.
I don’t think Covid has helped with not being able to go out during the lockdowns and having to stay local when we do go out.
I am just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation (either with driving or something else) and/or has any advice they might want to give? I want to like driving again and to be able to do it to its fullest!
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