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Have you made any online friendships which you’ve met in real life

csno01
csno01 Member Posts: 253 Pioneering
Hey guys,
Here is an interesting one: have you ever met any of your online friends in Real life? I found this post on my BBC local radio Facebook group just just thought I would ask out of interest.

I have formed online friendships on other platforms in the past, such as Yahoo Chat, but have never met them. 

I guess online networking and friendship building is part of  the new normal now. 

CSno01

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  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Member Posts: 1,347 Pioneering
    Hi @csno01 I have met one person and I have to say it was a big disappointment. You get an idea in your head what the person is going to be like and then when they are not disappointment. We had nothing to say to each other, on line we chatted away. Perhaps expectation was to high.
  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser Posts: 567 Pioneering
    Hey all, 

    I am afraid to be that boring person but I want to remind you all to keep yourselves safe if you are meeting people offline that you met online. As @Teddybear12 said, sometimes people are not the same offline as they are online. However, I understand this could happen because people often meet people online now! (especially with COVID-19) and sometimes it allows us to talk to people we otherwise would not have had the opportunity to  <3
    I am a Scope volunteer. I have knowledge about the following subjects, gained through professional settings such as high level education or employment: autism spectrum disorder, dyslexia, down's syndrome, social, emotional and mental health difficulties, assistive technology and education. Pronouns: She/her.
  • MarkM88
    MarkM88 Member Posts: 1,990 Pioneering
    I built a friendship with someone through a gaming community in my teens. We did meet, but it wasn’t arranged as a one on one meet. We both discovered we were attending the same open day for a university and would be there at the same time, so much safer this way and it went from there. 
  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser Posts: 567 Pioneering
    Hi @MarkM88

    Absolutely, there are safer ways - such as meeting in groups of people and in public places!  :)
    I am a Scope volunteer. I have knowledge about the following subjects, gained through professional settings such as high level education or employment: autism spectrum disorder, dyslexia, down's syndrome, social, emotional and mental health difficulties, assistive technology and education. Pronouns: She/her.
  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 253 Pioneering
    Hi @csno01 I have met one person and I have to say it was a big disappointment. You get an idea in your head what the person is going to be like and then when they are not disappointment. We had nothing to say to each other, on line we chatted away. Perhaps expectation was to high.
    Hi @Teddybear12, I am sorry to hear of your experience. You are right in what you say, it can go either way.MarkM88 said:
    I built a friendship with someone through a gaming community in my teens. We did meet, but it wasn’t arranged as a one on one meet. We both discovered we were attending the same open day for a university and would be there at the same time, so much safer this way and it went from there. 
    Hi @MarkM88, How interesting. What course did you study?


  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Member Posts: 1,347 Pioneering
    edited November 12
    Hi mine was a course I was doing and myself and the other person conversed via email to discuss the subject we were studying. We agreed to meet to share some books in a coffee shop during the day. It was not a date. We were online friends. It was  safe as far as it can ever be.
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 12,817 Disability Gamechanger
    I have met a few online friends in person some as just friends others off dating sites 

    Totally agree make sure you are safe I would only meet if I had been on a video call first so they could show they were the person in their profile 

    Always meet in public place , make sure somebody knows where you are 

    If you can arrange to meet in a group I used to get my friend to take me to the meeting place and they stayed in the venue so they were there to make sure I was OK 
    I have professional experience in HR within public,  private, and charity sectors.  If I can help I will 
  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community Co-Production Group Posts: 5,770 Disability Gamechanger
    I have never met anyone from online in real life, partly because I’d probably end up being the disappointing person that @Teddybear12 mentioned :D I am happy to type away online but in real life I struggle to know what to say and am really awkward.
  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Member Posts: 1,347 Pioneering
    Hi @66Mustang I am sorry if you think you would be the disappointing person I mentioned in my thread. Perhaps what I should have said is that the other person and I had less in common than I thought we would. I am a tiny person only 5' tall and weigh 7.7 stone. He was huge and I found that quite intimidating and he was loud might have been nerves.  With a lot of effort we still managed to chat for over an hour and exchange books. I always try to work on the basis :-  It is not how you say something that people remember, it is not even what you say, it is how you make them feel that they remember. Take care. 
  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community Co-Production Group Posts: 5,770 Disability Gamechanger
    @Teddybear12 oh, I understand, that makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the tip as well, I would have to agree with what you say. A few people have said I’m a good conversationalist even though I don’t think I am. I mostly listen, I don’t say much, maybe people say I’m good because they like feeling listened to? Like you say not what I say but how they come away feeling.
  • OverlyAnxious
    OverlyAnxious Member Posts: 1,702 Disability Gamechanger
    I must have met 25+ people from forums and Facebook groups between 2010-2016.  :)

    All within a small radius as I never could travel far.  I do tell people in advance that I have 'health issues' (don't go into detail) and am different in real life.  A few have been really accomodating as well.  Sad as it sounds, some of the best days I had in the last decade were spent with internet friends where I barely said a word at all and felt really unwell all day...

    Sadly all drifted apart now as my conditions worsened and their lives got busier etc.  Wish I could meet new people very locally now but that would have to start through the internet one way or another.
  • Ross_Scope
    Ross_Scope Posts: 5,416

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    I haven't done this personally, but my partner's best friend is somebody she met online, and they live in Europe. They've met a couple of times, and have been friends for many years now.
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  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 253 Pioneering
    janer1967 said:
    I have met a few online friends in person some as just friends others off dating sites 

    Totally agree make sure you are safe I would only meet if I had been on a video call first so they could show they were the person in their profile 

    Always meet in public place , make sure somebody knows where you are 

    If you can arrange to meet in a group I used to get my friend to take me to the meeting place and they stayed in the venue so they were there to make sure I was OK 
    A video call prior to 1st meeting person sounds like a good move. 
  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 253 Pioneering
    I must have met 25+ people from forums and Facebook groups between 2010-2016.  :)

    All within a small radius as I never could travel far.  I do tell people in advance that I have 'health issues' (don't go into detail) and am different in real life.  A few have been really accomodating as well.  Sad as it sounds, some of the best days I had in the last decade were spent with internet friends where I barely said a word at all and felt really unwell all day...

    Sadly all drifted apart now as my conditions worsened and their lives got busier etc.  Wish I could meet new people very locally now but that would have to start through the internet one way or another.
    That is good to hear that you managed to at least meet people locally @OverlyAnxious. I can relate that conversing is sometimes difficult.


    csno01
  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 253 Pioneering
    I haven't done this personally, but my partner's best friend is somebody she met online, and they live in Europe. They've met a couple of times, and have been friends for many years now.
    That is good @Ross_Scope

    Can’t remember if I mentioned this but I to made a couple of strong friendships with people I met on Yahoo chat back in the early 2000. They were good times. 

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