Has anyone given up working to be a carer?

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janer1967

@MrsMwa it's perfectly OK to ask any questions on here 

I'm not a carer but in order to care for your children you need to look after yourself 

Personally I don't know how you cope doing a 12 hour shift then taking on your caring 

I would start by talking to your employers as suggested and see if you could reduce your hours 

janer1967

Sorry posted b4 I had finished 

At least then you still have this job to fall back on if needed and could increase your hours if you 0artners job doesn't work 9ut 

Maybe also speak to social services to see if there is any care that could be offered 

Maybe a nursery or day centre 

Hope you work it out 

Alex_Alumni

@MrsMwa I think it's fair to say that if you're looking for advice, information, emotional support or to talk with others who have had similar experiences, then this forum is certainly one of the places you can come to. We know that caring is very individual of course, but that doesn't mean you can't reach out for a bit of help, for someone to listen, or to talk things through. You haven't offended anyone, so please don't think that

I don't know whether you've been in touch with Scope's family services at all, Navigate offers emotional support for parents and carer's of disabled children, though currently the waiting list is 14 weeks due to high demand. The Scope Helpline might well be able to advise you as to your next steps, or recommend who would be best to contact, if you'd prefer to talk to someone over the phone. As mikehughescq has suggested, AdviceLocal is a good place to start to get to grips with the practical impact of any changes you'd like to make. 

I can appreciate how much of an impact weighing up this decision is having on you, and all the emotions that come with it. Have you spoken to your spouse about whether they could undertake any more care work, to help ease some of the pressure on you? You'll forgive me for making assumptions, but it sounds as though the scales are tipped towards you slightly more. Do you have any family nearby who could help balance things out at all- not necessarily with care, but to help you have time to rest?

Sandy_123

Hi @MrsMwa as Jane mentioned earlier, speak to your boss about reduced hours, flexi working etc. 12 hour shifts are a lot with everything else. Look to see if you can get financial support from government with less hours. Hopefully you can reach a decision soon that suits you and your family.

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