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Moving to a smaller property

Oldhippie
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I live in a large 2 bed bungalow in a beautiful village. I love it here and would stay, but for bullying intimidating neighbours. I won't go into detail, but it's all about parking; they think they can take over half of my parking space just because I am elderly, disabled and don't have a car. Problem is, when I have visitors they have to park partially on a muddy grass area. I have asked politely many times for them to just park on their side of the white line, but they either ignore me or I get a torrent of verbal abuse. I have asked my housing association if they can move me, as this is really getting me down now, and it's affecting my mental health. It's been going on for 4-5 years now. I have been very ill lately with breast cancer. I don't have much energy, and I sleep most of the time. I really don't want the stress of moving, but if I don't get away from the annoying neighbours next door I know I will have a breakdown. Can anyone suggest a way I can move without any stress? I am on homeswapper, but nothing suitable has come up on there for a few years. I just need to get away from here before I crumble. I should say, where neighbour parks blocks my back gate. I had emergency ambulance recently, and they couldn't get in my gate because of said car. Just hoping someone knows if there are any other avenues I can access to get away from here. Thank you in anticipation, and apologies for being a misery. x
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There will be loads of people wanting to get the extra space, (plus, I doubt if the neighbours would try that bullying with a belligerent couple!) but councils are peculiarly unwilling to push homeswap. Therefore, think of what other ways you can advertise. Postcards in newsagents, or supermarkets, or notices in local papers, or the local online organisations such as Nextdoor? Can people put ads in the local housing office? Have you asked your councillors?
ps make sure you don't go from frying pan to fire, though... chat with all the neighbours of any proposed swapper. -
I wonder if you could get a designated disabled parking area outside your bungalow?
i don’t know much about this but perhaps someone like @calcotti or @woodbine would know?
“This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart is the temple. Your philosophy is simple kindness.”
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Is the parking space actually yours? Even if it was a disabled parking bay, anyone with a blue badge can park there and no one can stop them.I would appreciate it if members wouldn't tag me please. I have all notifcations turned off and wouldn't want a member thinking i'm being rude by not replying.If i see a question that i know the answer to i will try my best to help.
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I'm sorry to hear about this, and that it's been affecting your mental health @Oldhippie. Have you reported your neighbours for the verbal abuse they've given you at all? They shouldn't be speaking to you like that.
I was also wondering whether you're receiving any support for your mental health at the moment? I appreciate that doesn't solve the parking problem, but it sounds as though your mental health has been impacted by this quite a lot, and talking things through with someone could really help. -
@leecal not something I know much about, OP I can imagine it's not pleasant, but parking can cause problems even between neighbours who other wise get on, my only suggestion would be to not let it get you down, as you don't drive (neither do I) I would not get involved with where someone else parks, if you have visitors then I'm certain they might not be too bothered where they park.
I suspect that moving would be far more stressful than the parking problem, have you spoken to your GP about your mental health?
Sorry not to be much help.Seasons greetings to one and all 🎄🎅🏻🌲 -
Thank you all for your comments. If only it was as easy as parking somewhere else. This is a small village, and there is no other parking. Each house has one parking space. Housing association has recently marked out the two bays for myself and next door, but they insist on parking half on my bay. I would love to have more visitors, but can't invite anyone because of greedy parking by next door. It's not about not getting involved with where they park, it's to do with mutual respect. As it is I sometimes can't get out of my back gate because their car is in the way. I don't use the front access as they don't like people walking past their lounge window, so I try to keep them happy by using the back gate. I've done everything I can to keep them happy, but I'm out of good will now. I'm hopeless at arguing, so that's not an option. I just need them to understand that I need visitors too. As it is they have two cars, which is fine, even though the other one irritates other residents. I'm losing sleep over this now, and I understand it's a silly thing to get upset about, but at the weekend my daughter had to park partially in the mud because of their bad parking. The only option I can see is to move. These people are not the sort of people an old lady wants to get on the wrong side of. I've already been verbally threatened by them, and don't feel safe here any more. I've never once reported them to the housing association, because that's not the sort of thing I do.
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As the houses are HA have you thought about talking to them about this problem?Seasons greetings to one and all 🎄🎅🏻🌲
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I've never once reported them to the housing association, because that's not the sort of thing I do.I can understand this @Oldhippie, and it's your choice of course, but it does seem as though it could be worth reporting this, especially due to the verbal abuse. It's one thing for them to use the parking spaces in what might be an inconsiderate way, but the verbal abuse is a step up from this.
You've mentioned not wanting to get on the wrong side of them, and that they've threatened you. Do you feel unsafe? If so, you should call the police. You can call 999 in the case of an emergency, or 101 for a non-emergency. -
Hi @Oldhippie which area are you in? I have a 2 bed bungalow in Middleton M24 but it is a small one.
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@Oldhippie I should also mention that if your neighbours rent their property their landlord is responsible for their antisocial behaviour and you need to complain to their landlord. If they own the property then you should complain to your council who are obliged to take action. There may be some backlash so you need to decide if you can weather that and if it would be worse than the issues you are having now. Only you can answer that question but legally you don't have to put up with the abuse. Unless the parking space is exclusively yours as detailed in your tenancy agreement then unfortunately you cannot stop them parking in front of your home. The verbal abuse however is a different matter. Because you are disabled the abuse could also be reported to the police as a hate crime. Just because you have challenges in your life doesn't mean you have to put up with this behaviour. One further piece of advice if you do intend to make a complaint, keep a diary of when what, who and what was said in as much detail as possible and note down witnesses. Good luck.
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