Hello everyone.
I am mother to a beautiful little boy, with cerebral palsy. GMFCS 4, spasticity in all four limbs. He is extremely healthy and exceptionally happy child, an absolute joy to care for. He is also making brilliant progress with his motor skills, now at 3 able to army crawl between rooms, roll around, and plays a lot in a kneeling position.
We have been having his hips routinely surveilled by an orthopaedic surgeon. They are now dislocated by 38 and 43 % on the most recent x ray, but he is not in any pain and has an excellent range of motion when relaxed - we stretch him daily. The surgeon has not witnessed this. He was not relaxed in her office.
She has recommended that he has a soft tissue release surgery (and also wants to do bony surgery) with a six week brace afterwards. I went away and researched very carefully, and the risks of this procedure seem to outweigh the potential benefits in his particular case (non ambulatory/ his age and condition) - either way he will almost certainly require an operation in the future anyway so it won’t prevent this.
He is still so young at 3. My husband and I would like to delay the surgery until he is older and has had more of a chance to grow and develop in his motor skills. The journals say that the surgery has more success in kids over 6.
Six weeks out at this time seem like a disaster when he is so happy and thriving, and learning new skills every day. It is such a crucial time in his life. The surgery has such limited success, too, and real risks. However we are very wary of sharing our view with the surgeon who was extremely keen to
operate - we are also worried that if we refuse, the hospital may seek to obtain a care order to force it through. Though they have not said that.
We have asked for a second opinion (however he is a friend of our surgeon!!) - we are at our wits end, so scared and worried, and any advice or wisdom would be hugely appreciated.