Hello. My husband's had a few falls in his nursing home. Who can I go to for support?
That night I cried my eyes out. He has no way of getting back to walking the little he did before the fall.
The questions keep going around in my head, why ??
I fell alone and helpless. Who do I go to for support and help.
He has deteriorated so much.
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Hi @starshine welcome to the forum. I'm sorry your husband has has falls that had an impact. Has your husband got a care plan in place, on how to mobilise him, which is what the care staff follow. I would look at the care plan and see if the staff followed it, or if it has been updated to his needs. Then I would approach the manager on this.
Physiotherapy should also have been assessed after his hip and arm. If you have spoken to the manager and got no luck, I have put a link in below you can also speak to them
https://www.cqc.org.uk/
Also please don't feel guilty, you have done what you thought was best for husband.0 -
Welcome to the community @starshine
I'm sorry to hear about the position you and your husband are in. I can only imagine how stressful and upsetting it must be for you. I'd join Sandy_123 in saying that it's not your fault at all. Your husband deserves a good level of care, and they should be providing that. It's also really important that you look after yourself and your own needs.
I'd echo the above comments suggesting you could try speaking to the nursing home, and then trying somewhere like the CQC if you're not getting anywhere. Have you tried either of those?
If you'd like to access some advice and support as a carer, you could also speak to Carers UK.
I know that being in these sorts of situations can feel quite isolating, but we're all here to support you0 -
Hi from Starshine. Thank you all for your kind words. I have tried all or most of your wonderful suggestions, it was good to hear we are thinking on the same lines as most of the time I think the home are just being polite to me.
Covid has played a big part in my husbands deterioration also in 2years the home has had 3 new managers with all the carers and nurses I knew now gone, left.
I must admit I am worn out fire fighting these past 11years. But I must pick up the gauntlet and try to speak to the new manager and try and speak to my husbands doctor as was suggested.
Thank you to all. Take care, x0 -
Good luck and let us know how you get on0
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Hi @starshine - as you said it got to the stage where you couldn't look after him safely, so as others have said, you've done absolutely nothing wrong. What is so sad to read is that your husband has fallen & sustained fractures whilst in the care home.What I don't understand as a long-retired physio, & as someone that has fractured a hip, is why he was left so long, & why he didn't get physio, as also mentioned above. Despite this, I do feel that strongly requesting physio, & yes, engage with your husband's GP to ensure this, may, slower than it should have been, turn things around.Again, as above, you need the support of your GP to help you in continuing to fight now for the best care of your husband.....you need to look after you both.0
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hi basically my car I went down a one night to get to the hospital now I’ve got one officer coming to my house at 6:30 in the morning tomorrow tell me what can I do? Anxiety take my car away from you. payment but you wouldn’t have it.
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hi starshine. Just weighing in as a qualified social worker. It may be worth speaking to the Adult Safeguarding Team at your local authority. There are many missing bits of information for me to be able to comment fully. One of the MAIN things is when the assessment was completed, before a health and care plan was even formulated, they should have completed risk assessments which should then have identified how these risks were to be managed within the residential setting. There are all sorts of bells and whistles which can be used to prevent the risk of falls, as this is a huge risk for our elderly citizens who struggle with mobility. If you ring your local council (who you pay for council tax or refuse collections) and ask to speak to a Sateguarding Officer in Adult Social Care, they can advise you on what you can do. This could mean a change of care setting and whilst this may be a little unsettling, the positive benefits should outweigh the apprehension.
I know it’s so hard but please do not feel guilty. You have done the right thing, even though it feels like the exact opposite.
Please go through the moderators here if you want any more advice, as they will happily pass your correspondence to me without breaching forum rules. All the best to you xxx
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