I Am Being Bullied By Neighbours & Housing Association

oldngrumpy

I don't know if anyone can advise on this.. It drags on although I am trying to keep it brief... Thank you folks

For years now. Probably nearly thirty years now I have had to put up with bullying from neighbours, It started off with the one neighbour, then a new neighbour moved in they got a flavour for bullying, then another neighbour moved in, they started bullying also...

This neighbour (the last one) has a son who works for the same Housing Association, he also started.
But because I never bowed down to his parents bullying ways he has become a serious bully.

There are several incidents that I could tell you about but I am trying to keep this brief.

I have prepared a brief statement ready for when I get a txt I get off H. A. I usually get these when I have had a household repair. Asking about the workmanship.

I am as I am getting older hearing folks regularly saying Freedom of Speech.  I want to send this document in the return txt. 

But I am worried on what the consequence could be. Could the H.A., make me homeless for criticising the last three area managers. Also their work colleague, the electrician?

Only a few weeks ago, another neighbour who used to be decent, then turned nasty because of the gangland culture. Patronised me and was Gaslighting me.

Asking me why wouldn't I speak to her no more? 

I went ballistic calling her the C word also used the F and B words. I was expecting a call from the H.A. or the Police telling me off. Nothing.

But this bullying is affecting me. I get frustrated in bed at night and embarrassed to say I get teary.

One more thing. The Housing Association has warned me not to touch anyone.

"Otherwise you and your brother will be out"

Violence is not tolerated. But, I am getting to the stage where I "may" do something. And I will be arrested. 

Folks you can put two and two together.

The Police have been no better at sorting the problems. I was once called a Coward by the electrician parent because I contacted the police years ago. You have to call the Police because you cannot sort it yourself. You are a Coward

I cannot win. The problems have affected my sleep also

Folks what do I do. Thanking you

I cannot afford to see a solicitor. Also the solicitor will probably treat this as a trivial/menial problem

 

Again Thanking you all

Tori_Scope

Hi @oldngrumpy  

I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing bullying. As woodbine has said, this isn't something any of us should have to endure. 

I know that you've mentioned patronising and gaslighting, but would you mind explaining a little more about the kind of bullying you've been experiencing?

In terms of making a complaint about the area managers and electrician, I'm not sure whether this could put your tenancy at risk or not. Have you checked the housing association's complaints procedure to see what's involved? 

Shelter may be able to give you some advice on your rights. 

I'd encourage you to continue reporting any incidences of bullying to the police. Though they're not always able to take action every time, reporting it each time it happens can sometimes help them to build up a picture of what's happening, if that makes sense. 

True Vision have a page on reporting bullying and harassment, which you might find helpful. 

Victim Support are another organisation you might want to get in touch with. They offer a range of services totally confidentially. 

If you start to feel angry, or as though you might lash out, I'd encourage you to take yourself away from the situation and do something that helps you to calm down, such as listening to music or going for a walk. 

Is your GP aware of what's been going on, and how it's been affecting you? There's no need to feel embarrassed about crying at all. 

Ross_Alumni

Hi @oldngrumpy

I just wanted to drop in here to check in with you? How have things been this past week?

L_Volunteer

A really supportive and insightful thread. Thanks everyone for continuing to contribute to making this a supportive and friendly space. 

If anyone needs any further support please don't hesitate to let us know. We are all here for each other 

Batofjustice32

@oldngrumpy Hello, when I moved into my council home, no one was welcoming, and I started having mental abuse. When there is no love in your life and no one cares, it's hell. I hope things get better for you, old grumpy. :]

Strawberry1

@oldngrumpy I'm so very sorry to hear what is occurring for you . As you probably already know people who bully others are insecure themselves. I detest bullying. Added to that they are gaslighting you too . It's despicable the way you are being treated. Some people have no respect whatsoever for anyone else but themselves. I see others have answered before me to give you some ideas who you can contact. I really hope you get someone on your side and get as much help as possible. My heart goes out to you. Hang on in there . Good luck.

egister

Video recordings of offenses are always useful.

dawsden

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/92583/i-am-being-bullied-by-neighbours-housing-association

Hi everyone

The post from you oldngrumpy could be writing it. I have been suffering with the same since I finally called the police on my neighbour and he was arrested. Same old story. Nothing happened to him.

My life is hell. I suffer with CPTSD and my mental health has spiralled. I look out of my windows onto my garden and my neighbours point phones at me and take photos.

They have now alleged harassment against me to the police and I've been 'invited' for an interview

I know this was back in 2022 that you posted this oldngrumpy, but I would love to know how you are getting on

Best wishes to you and anyone else in this same situation x

Rosie_Scope

Sending best wishes your way @dawsden, that sounds like a really difficult situation.

Do you get any support with your mental health at the moment? It's totally understandable that your conditions have spiralled with all that's happening. Hope you're doing as well as possible.

dawsden

Hi Rosie

Thank you for your response. I am in contact with the MH team, but at the end of the day I still have to live in here, with all this schoolyard mentality going on. I'm putting up with everything from drug taking, noise, intimidation. They can all do whatever they want it seems. Nobody is listening to me. An example of what happened when the crisis team sent a ambulance to my house last week. My neighbours were obviously waiting to video me being taken out of the house!

Rosie_Scope

That's really horrible @dawsden, I get what you mean, the situation causing your difficulties is still happening so it's hard to get on top of your mental health even with support. I'm really sorry you're facing this. I hope there's a resolution soon.

Have you had any contact with your MP or local councillors? They may not be able to help if a police investigation is ongoing, but might be able to offer some advice on any local avenues you could try.

Keep gathering evidence if you can, I've heard that keeping a diary of incidents can be helpful.