Trigger warning. Mentions terminal illness. Morning. How are you all? Long post coming up. My sister is bossy,manipulative and invalidating when it comes to our terminally ill mum. I'm the one who empties the sick bowl,gets her on and off the commode,checks her blood sugars,keeps her cool,hands her her medicines,orders the medicines,gets what little food and drink that she can stomach,checks that her driver doesn't dangle in the commode. When my sister comes over she's loud,can be argumentative to do with mandates being lifted,fiddles with her mask and drops it down,showing her nose,is bossy,says "ew" when our Mum's sick,doesn't know how to check her blood sugar and moans about life in general. Mum said that she doesn't want her over.
The last time she came(Saturday August the 13th),she took Mum downstairs whilst I went out to see a few friends for an hour,wearing a mask,and she had to stay downstairs in the evening because she couldn't climb the stairs! I said that she'd have to sleep in her chair. She went on the sofa and fell off it. I rang rapid response,they said to ring 999. I rang them and they said that there could be up to a six hour wait. I got my sister to come over,who said she'd tested herself and didn't wear a mask. She couldn't get her up either. She propped her up against a chair,with a pillow behind her back. My brother in law kept an eye on the chair. Our mum was sick 3 times because of the exertion. The paramedics came at 3.20pm. We waited 3 hours and 20 minutes. This could've been avoided. She had the cheek to say to me "We can't let her go downstairs anymore." It was her,not me.
A hospital bed came on Monday the 15th of August. My Mum is a double up with the carers now. They wash her in bed or on the commode now. They change her pull on pants because she's incontinent both ends. They cream her bottom and legs,and brush her hair. The district nurses come every day and the doctor pops in once a week. My sister came over to relieve me for an hour and all she did was cause problems. I had Mum upstairs for a reason,for her safety.
Fast forward to Saturday the 20th,i rung to ask her if she could come over for a bit whilst I saw my friends for an hour. I said that she'd need to wear a mask to enter the house, leave the house and be near Mum. "Yesss!" She replied. So I said that Mum is very ill,it's important. She said "I know,stop going on about it." She got arsey with me so I said "Don't bother coming over until you can wear a mask properly." and hung up on her. Since Monday,she's text me twice after calming down from her hissy fit,asking how Mum is. I said that she hasn't been sick for 4 days. She said that that's good and to tell her she said hello. Mum said she can't be doing with her at the moment,finds it tiring chatting to her,she's bossy,loud and that she could wear a mask and to wear one properly,but gets funny about it. I feel mean for not having her over,but Mum is seriously ill with cancer. Thanks for reading.
