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hopeinthestorm
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I’ve been living with family since April as I wasn’t coping living alone. I was 2 and a half hours away from all my support and it got to the point where I had no choice. Now my flat is going to be ready next week, but I’m so worried. I don’t think I’m going to cope physically or mentally and I don’t know what to do. I can’t stay with family any longer it’s just not feasible.
My mental health is really bad and I’ve tried to tell my family my worries but they just think I’m just overly anxious about it. I’m fully wheelchair bound and have complex physical health. But after my carer left last year and the stress from dealing with her emotional abuse and her leaving me living alone and responsible for 3 pets, I relapsed with anorexia. Which I’d been recovered from for nearly 10 years. This has further weakened my body as my weight is now so low . I just feel really lost now, and I’m completely fed up of my life. I feel like a massive burden who just causes more stress and problems. I’ve tried to get a doctors appointment but there’s nothing available and I can’t access services without help, and my aunty is very limited to days and times she can help me. And it just makes me feel like a complete nuisance and I just keep wondering that everyone would be better off without me. I’m not suicidal I’m just fed up and just feel lost. I just wish I wasn’t me anymore
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Hi @hopeinthestorm have you managed to get care set up ready for moving? That might be a good step. It's good your aunt can suport you when she can as well. Some helplines below, you may find useful.
- Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM). You can call the CALM on 0800 58 58 58 (5pm–midnight every day) if you are struggling and need to talk. Or if you prefer not to speak on the phone, you could try the CALM webchat service.
I hope you settle in your new home.
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Teddybear12 said:Hi @hopeinthestorm I am sorry that you are not looking forward to moving into your flat and are dreading living alone. Where I live we have Healthy Minds which is Counselling for Mental Health you can self refer. Do you have anything similar in your area? You are not a nuisance you just need some help. What are your plans for care once you move? Take care.
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And my aunty has just told me that she has to pull back on caring for me because she has too much going on. I understand and that’s okay, I always knew that she’s busy and the world doesn’t revolve around me. but I just felt so happy to be moving home where she could help me. But now she won’t be able to. I honestly just wish I could disappear. I hate not being able to do these things for myself and that I have so much trouble with communicating. I literally don’t know where to turn
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Sandy_123 said:Hi @hopeinthestorm have you managed to get care set up ready for moving? That might be a good step. It's good your aunt can suport you when she can as well. Some helplines below, you may find useful.
- Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM). You can call the CALM on 0800 58 58 58 (5pm–midnight every day) if you are struggling and need to talk. Or if you prefer not to speak on the phone, you could try the CALM webchat service.
I hope you settle in your new home. -
It's good to hear from you @hopeinthestorm, though I'm sorry it's not under better circumstances.
I've sent you an email from community@scope.org.uk, so please do keep an eye out for that -
Tori_Scope said:It's good to hear from you @hopeinthestorm, though I'm sorry it's not under better circumstances.
I've sent you an email from community@scope.org.uk, so please do keep an eye out for that -
You are welcome @hopeinthestorm. It is the very least you deserve. We are all here for you. You don't have to face this, or anything else, alone if you don't want toCommunity Volunteer Adviser with professional knowledge of education, special educational needs and disabilities and EHCP's. Pronouns: She/her.
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L_Volunteer said:You are welcome @hopeinthestorm. It is the very least you deserve. We are all here for you. You don't have to face this, or anything else, alone if you don't want to
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Morning @hopeinthestorm how are you today ?
I can sense that you are frightened to live an independent life, do you think that this is what your family are trying to help you achieve, are you going back to your original place or are you moving into a new area darling ? -
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