Feel so alone

Muppets69

My ex took my cards everything I got can't tell anyone I feel like a fool my adult or family don't know much about him I've had trouble with him before even to the point of going to The police but couldn't gave them his name 

Sandy_123

Hi ya @Muppets69 are you referring to bank cards?  If so have you had them stopped via the bank.  

Muppets69

I've had them stopped straight away it always ho quiet then starts up again 

Muppets69

Sorry shouldn't of bothered anyone 

Sandy_123

That's good that you got them stopped. Maybe telling family might help them support you.

Muppets69

Won't be they got there own lives I just don't know wat to do my heads every where 

Leo_Aces

Hi @Muppets69, It seems as though you may be in quite a difficult situation this evening. 

As @Sandy_123 says, you can cancel any bank cards which are no longer in your possession, quickly via your bank.

If you currently or at any time feel unsafe, consider contacting the authorities or helplines such as 
 
Crisis: https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/emotional-abuse/#what-is-emotional-abuse-1

Refuge
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/ 
08082000247

Fae

Please don't feel like a fool or you can't tell anyone. That is what these people want. Break free and speak out. You've not done anything wrong. Trusting people or meeting the wrong person is not a failing on your part. 
Have you ordered replacement cards? Are you protected and safe from him entering your home or causing more harm?

SueHeath

Morning @Muppets69 hope your well.
Don't feel sorry about bothering anyone, as the saying goes "were in it together" it's good to talk.
Personaly i wouldn't let him back into your life again, sounds like a bad un and a user. 

Tori_Scope

I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened @Muppets69. I've sent you an email from community@scope.org.uk, so please do keep an eye out for that.

This behaviour from your ex partner is unacceptable, and I wanted to reassure you that you're not a fool at all. You also don't need to apologise for 'bothering' us, as we're all here to support you the best we can. 

 

I know that you mentioned you're hesitant to speak to your family about what's happened, as they have their own challenges to deal with, but I'd encourage you to do so. Something I find helpful is to imagine whether I'd want a loved one to share this with me if the roles were reversed. 

 

It's good to hear that you've cancelled your cards. Have you reported this incident to your bank as fraud? I'd encourage you to do so if not.

 

Do you mind me asking how your ex partner got access to your cards? For example, did they manage to steal your bank details, or did they physically take your cards from you? 

 

Have you reported this to the police? I'd encourage you to do so. 

 

You might find the following pages helpful:

• Banking – security and fraud (Citizens Advice)
• Identity fraud and identity theft (ActionFraud)

I'd also encourage you to look at the following resources:

• Domestic abuse: how to get help (gov.uk)
• I need help (Surviving Economic Abuse)
• Financial abuse: spotting the signs and leaving safely (Money Helper)