A court are trying to force my autustic son to see his mum. Any advice?

Gweis79

Hi I'm new to this sort of thing but I am in need of some advice please, I have an autistic son who is now 12. Me and his mum split 4 years ago and he told us at that time he would not accept us with anyone else which we both promised him we would stay single until he was ready no matter how long it took, I stuck to my word but she lied as she was already when promising him in a new relationship. My son kicked off and wouldn't talk to her. She moved away and then was in her 3rd relationship and my son refused any contract whatsoever for 8 months, she then returned and I allowed her back for our children's sake then 1 year later and she was doing this again and she has now been gone for over a year with another new relationship this being the 5th in 4 years and my son now 12 has refused to ever have contact with her ever again but she took this to court and caffcass have been involved and have reports after speaking with my son alone with him absolutely adamant he wants no contact even writing a letter to the judge saying this and caffcass and a court are trying to force him to see her, is this a good idea as even before this has started it is affecting him and our household, I'm not a bitter ex I'm just a dad who loves my children very much even giving up work to take care of them when she just walked out and all I have seen is her pick men over my kids and constantly lie to them, is there anything I can do so an autistic doctor would say this is not good to force him. Thanks for your time.

Sandy_123

Hi  @Gweis79 welcome to the form. Firstly your doing a grand job looking after your children. It's never easy when these things spill out into courtrooms. Have you a solicitor to guide you? It can't be easy for your son to see his mom and then she keeps  leaving. 

littleacorn

I know that solicitors are expensive and some fathers represent themselves. However there are advocates out there who have been through the same as you and I dont mean those who break the law and climb up bridges! Have you heard of mackensie friends. If not look them up and see if they will be useful.