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"Independent" advice re Housing

Wibbles
Community member Posts: 1,465 Pioneering
We live in our own (paid for) 3 bed semi that is now becoming too much for my wife to deal with - but to relocate would be a struggle (my mobility is poor and I would be unable even to contemplate looking round a new property !)
I would like a bungalow - but they are overpriced and in extremely short supply
My wife wants a kitchen extension / new kitchen and I urgently need a downstairs toilet (I regularly have "accidents")
So if we stay (which looks likely - because the housing market has virtually died) - we need to spend some money - but we need independent advice on what to get
Is there some independent service that we can turn too ?
We have savings so would have to pay for any work - ourselves
Builders, obviously want our cash - but I don't trust them
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You make a point which must apply to a lot of people. And yes you are right some independent advice would be good, before jumping in for builders' quotes.
But I'm thinking further..... Could you partly divide your house? Soundproofing of course would be important. And updating your insulation. But without seeing your house or knowing you or your likely future health, it does seem you may be in a lucky position of being able to future-proof yourselves, in case in time you need Older people and younger ones often make great friendships using these schemes.
Could you look at these options, too? It would be a shame to endure builder disturbance, then in a year or so for one of you to have a need for someone to help part time, and then be annoyed with yourselves because you could have made things much easier just for want of an extra sink, ensuite, or a door in a different place, or an extra couple of hours work from an electrician .
Probably old people's sites will be the place for the sort of information you might consider, and they would also probably have ideas for protecting yourself as far as being 'babes- in- the -woods' for builders. You are absolutely right to take care, but there actually are some honest decent builders out there too! -
newborn said:You make a point which must apply to a lot of people. And yes you are right some independent advice would be good, before jumping in for builders' quotes.
But I'm thinking further..... Could you partly divide your house? Soundproofing of course would be important. And updating your insulation. But without seeing your house or knowing you or your likely future health, it does seem you may be in a lucky position of being able to future-proof yourselves, in case in time you need Older people and younger ones often make great friendships using these schemes.
Could you look at these options, too? It would be a shame to endure builder disturbance, then in a year or so for one of you to have a need for someone to help part time, and then be annoyed with yourselves because you could have made things much easier just for want of an extra sink, ensuite, or a door in a different place, or an extra couple of hours work from an electrician .
Probably old people's sites will be the place for the sort of information you might consider, and they would also probably have ideas for protecting yourself as far as being 'babes- in- the -woods' for builders. You are absolutely right to take care, but there actually are some honest decent builders out there too! -
Hi @wibbleswe need independent advice on what to getWhen you say "what to get", do you mean what kinds of adaptations could be most helpful to you, or the specific products (brands etc.) you need? I hope that question makes sense- I've got a bit of Sunday brain!
Have you had an assessment from an occupational therapist (OT)?
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Tori_Scope said:Hi @wibbleswe need independent advice on what to getWhen you say "what to get", do you mean what kinds of adaptations could be most helpful to you, or the specific products (brands etc.) you need? I hope that question makes sense- I've got a bit of Sunday brain!
Have you had an assessment from an occupational therapist (OT)?
Including access door and slope necessary to get to the door -
The local council run a scheme to advise home owners on home upgrades - but the department is clearly overwhelmed with work at present - I messaged them over 3 months ago with nothing heard except for a "message received, will get back to you" !
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Tori_Scope said:Hi @wibbleswe need independent advice on what to getWhen you say "what to get", do you mean what kinds of adaptations could be most helpful to you, or the specific products (brands etc.) you need? I hope that question makes sense- I've got a bit of Sunday brain!
Have you had an assessment from an occupational therapist (OT)?Yes - I have had an assessment from a OT - But this was just on equipment for the home - not the building itself - the problem is that I live in one county and my GP surgery and OT are in another (for historic reasons) - this has caused all sorts of problems in the past - but I am happy with my GP and will NOT be changing surgerys - because there are NO decent surgerys in my home townThis is the sort of thing that we are after - around £50k available
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newborn said:You make a point which must apply to a lot of people. And yes you are right some independent advice would be good, before jumping in for builders' quotes.
But I'm thinking further..... Could you partly divide your house? Soundproofing of course would be important. And updating your insulation. But without seeing your house or knowing you or your likely future health, it does seem you may be in a lucky position of being able to future-proof yourselves, in case in time you need Older people and younger ones often make great friendships using these schemes.
Could you look at these options, too? It would be a shame to endure builder disturbance, then in a year or so for one of you to have a need for someone to help part time, and then be annoyed with yourselves because you could have made things much easier just for want of an extra sink, ensuite, or a door in a different place, or an extra couple of hours work from an electrician .
Probably old people's sites will be the place for the sort of information you might consider, and they would also probably have ideas for protecting yourself as far as being 'babes- in- the -woods' for builders. You are absolutely right to take care, but there actually are some honest decent builders out there too!
No - sorry - dividing the house would not be possible or desirable
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