Should I send my boyfriend’s mom a Mother’s Day card?
So Mother’s Day is next weekend (oops) and I cant decide if I should send my boyfriend’s mom a card or a little note. We’ve been dating for 8 months, but his parents adore me and want to see me every time I’m in town #distance I should get moving since postal services might be backed up (more than normal) this week. HELP ME:
😂 oh my gosh please don’t, you weirdo. You’re not engaged or married and that’s creepy.
💚 Do it! It’s a sweet gesture. She raised an awesome guy, and he’s her only kid while my mom gets a group effort.
😯 Tell him to tell her for you the day of because it’s simple and you have no obligation.
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I personally would perhaps send some flowers on the day, nothing to grand, as you will be setting a precedent.
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Ooo personally I wouldn't because even tho they like you, you haven't been seeing the boyfriend very long really..and are not yet family....but if you are visiting with the boyfriend it may be appropriate to verbally say happy mother's day to her, and that you appreciate what a great person she is...
It may embarrass your boyfriend if you do more than that...sounds like you see the relationship.as permanent but he may feel more cautious at this stage...
Hope that helps, but does not offend you. It's great you get on with his mother and family and I hope it all works out with the boyfriend if that is what you both want. Best wishes, A x
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No she is not your mother. Make sure he sends one though!
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Personally , I wouldn't at such an early stage in a relationship and not being family. You must do what you feel is right, why not discuss it with your boyfriend?
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No definately not. It might give him cold feet and wave you bye bye. Way too soon to ever do that
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I’d suggest you ask him what he thinks. As a parent of an adult I would receive it with the thought and graciousness that you’ve thought of me. However I cosigned a birthday card for my now in laws when we’d been going out for months - they went ape and it was really awkward, although I did ask him and he said it’d be great us both signing it. So now I’m second guessing myself. Perhaps a notecard, rather than Mother’s Day card, with a note saying how much you appreciate the work she put into raising and mothering your boyfriend and say how wonderful he is and that you know kids don’t just turn out that way it takes time and effort.
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I personally could not, ever. My mum was amazing, the loveliest and kindest person I will ever have known in my whole life. I just couldn't acknowledge someone else as mum. I loved my MIL when married but didn't call her mum. Even all my birthdays when mum was here I thought of her/spoke to her and almost thought of it as 'her' day thinking back to the 60s when she had me. Maybe I'm just weird though 🤣
I'd say Happy Mothers Day to her though.
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At this stage of the relationship, I would find it odd if my Son's girlfriend sent me one. After all, she's not your mum. Fuss your mum is my best advice. It's a very kind thought, though…
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.it's a lovely thought but I personally wouldn't. Nothing stopping you buying them a box of chocolates or similar if you're visiting mothering Sunday weekend
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Now I think about it, my son and his partner have been together about 15 years and she's never sent me anything! Only thanks me for her birthday presents because I had a go at her for not doing . I'm old school , please and thank you are important to me.
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I've been with my husband almost 40 years now and have never sent my MIL anything on Mother's day.
Not unless you count the numerous times hubby asked me to pick a card for him to sign!
My own Mum died when i was 20 years old back in 1987 so i should think the last card i bought was 1986.
My DIL doesn't send me anything and, tbh, i'd think it a bit odd if she did.
Maybe in future if you get very close to your boyfriend's Mum and if your own Mum has passed, it could be appropriate.
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Ps - i have noticed a lot of posts lately on Scope which make me think the poster is American due to them using "Mom"
But i know Mother's day is celebrated on a different day in the America so guessing you are UK, @KathyMoran? Where in the UK do they use Mom?!
Or do we have a lot of American posters on Scope🧐🙂
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And we used to say mam and mammy (NW England). Never seen a card saying Happy Mammy's Day 🤣
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I wouldn't encourage such US imports as 'Mother's Day', but then, i'm divorced and clueless about such things!
If it was me, I wouldn't send your boyfriend's mum a card, but as Otteline said, make sure he sends her one!
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Ah yes, i know Mam is used in a few places - around Newcastle is another spot.
I'm from NW England originally (oldham) and it was Mum for us there.
@Ranald - Mother's day has been on the go in the UK long before i was born in the 60s. How ancient are you exactly to be able to recall it being imported from the U.S?!
I do remember life pre Father's day. Wasn't that a 70s thing?
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A curmudgeon thankyou, get it right!
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