Rude neighbour

Charlie5
Charlie5 Online Community Member Posts: 146 Contributor
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Hello to all,

Where I live earlier this year my housing association send out letters to all residents not to feed the birds as it was attracting vermin,damage to properties asit was atracting seagulls and pigeons etc

My area is 100 bungalows for 55 plus aged people,front gardens but open plan to back of properties.Last weekend I put a letter through the door to my next door neighbour as he was putting out food left overs from his dinner plate,bird seed,and bread on the open planned area to the back of my property.

I asked him with a please,and thankyou within the request not to put out bird food,as it wasnt allowed as wehad all been sent letters about it.

He has continued to feed the birds since,starting at 5.30 am and doing so throughout the day to around 10pm.

This morning he woke me up at 5,30am as he slammed his back door to go out to feed the birds.I watched him from the back entrance window,and he could clearly see me.On his return to his property he hsd to pass my house,and as he did so he pulled a childish face stuck out his tongue and stuck his 2 fingers up.I was shocked,I opened the top window and said you are not meant to feed the birds and you woke me up by banging the back door and its 5.30 am in the morning.He just made a face again and stuck up his 2 fingers again.So i shut the window and went back into the tv room and just cried my eyes out,

After i calmed down,I send 2 emails,one to my housing association and one to the local council reporting the above and how i thought this was anti social behaviour.

Of course I wont get a reply from them until they return to work,but he has put me on edge for tomorow morning when he wakes me up again early,as I dont believe he will do the neigbourly thing and what the housing assocation requested not to feed the birds as he has totally ingored there request from earlier this year.

Do you think I have been fair,to him?.his behavior has shocked me,and its made me feel i dont want to live here anymore.I am a woman on my own and I think he sees me as a soft target.What advice or views does anyone have on this?

Thankyou for reading,enjoy the rest of the weekend.

Comments

  • Passerby
    Passerby Posts: 557 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/135376/rude-neighbour

    Can you take pictures of him or film him while he's feeding the damn birds?

    What about other neighbours? Can you talk to them about this issue?

    It's well known how bad neighbour could wreck other people's lives.

    If

  • Santosha12
    Santosha12 Online Community Member Posts: 1,366 Trailblazing
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    Hi, I hope you are OK. You asked if you've been fair to him, I would say yes you have. However. I would not approach him further. You have done what you can and reported him via your email. I would chase the council up on it tomorrow.

    I would not open the window or watch him. Leave him to it - you are not going to be able yourself to stop him: that doesn't make you look soft, just a reasonable person. Leave it to the council do deal with it.

    You're entitled to enjoy in peace, your property and without interference from others but it is for the council to implement their rules and you've given information to help them do that.

    He clearly doesn't sound like a reasonable person so just keep yourself safe and avoid any confrontation or antagonising each other.

    If he does anything where you feel your safety is threatened, as well as the council you can ring the police on 101, or 999. Hopefully it won't come to that (obviously if you felt in immediate danger to you, or your property, then it's 999 straight away).

    I hope you can enjoy a peaceful day today and are able to relax, ignoring his shenanigans until others can deal with it. Take care 🫂.

  • Charlie5
    Charlie5 Online Community Member Posts: 146 Contributor
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    Hi and thankyou so much for taking the time and trouble to reply to my message.

    I totally agree in your advice and your right in saying now it's down to the council etc.i have since learnt from fellow neighbours further down that o. Friday night around 10pm he had a electric hedge trimmer and was cutting his boxed hedging plants he has in pots.As they state they had to look to see where the noise was coming from that time of night and it was my next door neighbour.So this again I think is unreasonable behavior.

    Anyway thankyou again and enjoy your day,and take care also.

  • Charlie5
    Charlie5 Online Community Member Posts: 146 Contributor
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1035180#Comment_1035180

    TThankyou for taking the time and trouble to reply to my message.

    I will take photos of him feeding the birds without him knowing incase the council ask for evidence.I won't get involved if he confronts me in him speaking to me or rude gestures,I will just make a note of it though for council reference if needed.

    I have spoke to fellow neighbours that live further down,and they told me that on Friday night at 10pm he has cutting his boxed hedging plants in pots with a electric hedge trimmer,in there words they said they had to look and see where the noise was coming from that time of night and it was from my next door neighbour.

    I will await and see what comes from my emails,and take it from there.i will try and enjoy my home etc and consecrate on my neighbours that are decent and respectful to fellow neighbours around them

    You enjoy your day,thankyou again and take care too.

  • Santosha12
    Santosha12 Online Community Member Posts: 1,366 Trailblazing

    Oh you're very welcome @Charlie5 . I hope the council do sort it out.

    Sometimes I wish I lived on an island, just me and my dogs! Funny enough, my neighbour had someone cutting down big tree branches/completely removing some smaller trees/shrubs on a Sat evening a few weeks, I went out and did my nut (fairly politely but was very, very clear) as there are nests in them. Reminded her it's illegal disturbing the nests (Wildlife & Countryside Act); what made it worse was she knew and had already told me it was being done in September.

    Luckily she's not cut any more, I rang the council to report her and I'm glad I did. There's fledglings now which are lovely and I feed seed. I can't imagine putting my leftover dinner out though, it'd probably harm them 😅 (not that I can't cook 🙄🤗).

    Neighbours eh?!! Don't think she'll speak to me again but I don't really give a rats behind although out getting my post a few days ago I said hello how are you and she answered. It's better if we can live with some harmony but I do tend to think when people show you who they are believe them, first time.

    Take care and I hope you have a good day today 🫂.

  • egister
    egister Posts: 1,095 Pioneering
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    not to feed the birds…. I wanted the letter to say don't feed the government, 😁!

    It seems like someone in the housing association has a lot of extra time and paper.

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