Feeling guilty about getting up late?

Relationship break ups are the worst. Last time I went through one, I'd barely finish eating in the evening before I was in bed. I was just beyond done with the day.

Be kind to yourself 😊

I've always been semi-nocturnal Nightofechoes. I can wake up early if I need to but I always find myself returning to staying and getting up late.

All kinds of shift work are available. I work in entertainments and with the internet so it either happens at night anyhow or I can do it in my own time.

It's very much my experience that people's circadian rhythms are unique to them. I've had a few partners who were very early risers and we always wound up meeting somewhere in the middle (as it were!).

Particularly at this time of year early mornings are something many of my friends with 9-5 jobs complain about.

I certainly encourage you not to worry about it (or anything else). Particularly after a break up I've often found peaceful time useful for reflection and generally calming. Life goes on and all that...

Good luck

Please don't be hard on yourself. You have been through a lot. If you don't need to get up early, don't. It's also hard in Winter when it is cold and dark in the mornings.

Best Wishes

Hi @nightofechoes

Please don’t feel guilty about your sleeping habits.

From childhood, I was an “early to bed, early to rise” person. When I reached my late twenties and my long-term physical condition worsened, I developed insomnia due to the pain and other symptoms. This has never improved despite plenty of well-intentioned “tips”. I get up early but need to sleep in the afternoon and go to bed early.

@mokki has made a beautiful and insightful observation . @bookrabbit wisely mentions your overall health and the importance that daylight plays. Perhaps a Vitamin D supplement might counteract this problem whilst you pursue other avenues.

There was a time where I wasn't able to sleep either, it was after I stopped my anti depressants, I understand how bad it is, you want nothing more than to be able to sleep but you can't, you feel so tired during the day that you can't enjoy anything and just even trying to keep your head up feels like torture. Strange thing is is that you would think that after withdrawal things would be back to normal again, yet for months, and months, and months after not taking my anti depressants I was barely able to sleep. Things became so bad that while awake I'd be getting these really weird vague memories of thoughts or things I did recently, but they'd be confusing and I wouldn't be able to grasp exactly what they are, and I'd be thinking am I just imaging things or did those things happen? It would feel as though I had dreampt them while awake. It was scary and I felt like I was losing my mind.

Thankfully I went back onto a type of anti depressants which actually help with sleep and now things are fine.