Drs pact

Jane315STARX
Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 802 Pioneering
in Mental health and wellbeing

My son who has autism and Adhd is awaiting therapy ( like me,what a pair! When I actually write it down it sounds worse but anyway).Its been going over my mind since last week what the Dr said.He said that my son had made a pact with him not to self harm or worse.When I also discussed my checking his phone he insisted that I kept on doing this as a safety measure.Now bearing in mind my son has no friends except just 1 that he sees at a weekend.This is sending my anxiety levels off the chart.I was also told not to leave him alone ( which I dont anyway).I feel like im analysing everything,not that he says much.I really want to feel optimistic but it's extremely hard.I don't know if you've ever felt like you've been observing yourself from the outside?.That is how I felt on this particular day in the Dr's office because I felt at times I was disassociating but knew I couldn't because of the importance of the situation and I was aware that it was like history repeating itself.As in my parents taking me to the Dr's many many years ago.A very bizzare feeling especially when my son has no clue about any of this and I have to try and keep my wits about me when all the while im actually very…unsure

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  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 11,833 Online Community Programme Lead

    This sounds incredibly difficult to deal with @Jane315STARX. Can I ask how old your son is? Is he getting any support with his mental health aside from what your doctor is able to provide?

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 802 Pioneering

    He is almost 15 and its not the Dr.Its very complex.This was the Pschologist who assessed him for Autism.This was the 2nd time he has seen him and he is on the list for some form of therapy.He has quite many difficult issues and formed an obsession with a girl he hasn't seen in over a year whom he thinks he loves ( long story).I discussed the possibility with this Pschologist that he might also have a personality disorder.As alongside other things it all seems to fit.He said it had definitely crossed their minds ( the team).But my son is too young to be considered apparently.So I think its just a vague area open to debate and opinion of how different illnesses cross over.But I think ultimately the affects are still the same.I wonder if the mothers of serial killers ever questioned or thought to themselves…is my son capable?.Im not saying mine is necessarily because he doesn't have vicious or aggressive tendencies.But apparently even close and somewhat enmeshed relationships to an extent can breed a kind of lunatic!.I know im going off on a total tangent here but it really is difficult to know what to do best when an obviously very intelligent Dr and his team is in agreement with me

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 8,062 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1078150#Comment_1078150

    Reading this can so relate my first ever boyfriend i was 15 purely innocent but I went full on love mode I was obsessed absolutely heartbroken when he avoided me and that was a bit of a pattern tbh and I have bpd starting really showing in my teenage years i wrote the boys name all over my room for hours I would cry be physically sick must be so hard for you as I know from experience when someone is in distress it seems like the worse thing ever I used to repeat the same thing over and over I drove everyone mad its important that you take timeout in the day to gather your thoughts and tbh you cant stop how hes feeling or how he processes these experiences all you can do is what your doing and having a mum who cares and wants to help is amazing

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 802 Pioneering

    How did you cope with the rejection?.She the girl has herself apparently taken overdoses before apparently so obviously has issues of her own.She blocks him on the phone then unblocks.He feels that she is the only person like him and that he doesn't fit into society ( which to a point is true as he has and never has fitted in anywhere).

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 802 Pioneering

    It's interesting reading your experience as you say "you drove everyone mad".There is a normality almost to this as it sounds like you had more than one person to tell how you were feeling.He barely speaks to me and only told me once about this and has Never spoken again despite what I now know and taking him to seek all this help.

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