Single, disabled parent

DB_81
DB_81 Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener
edited January 15 in Everyday life

Well what can I say, being ill sucks.

Parenting a child while disabled and ill. Seeing your past partner move on and enjoy his future.

I had not always been disabled, we met I was perfectly healthy.

He left when the going got tough, I just get to bring up his son.

My family really don't get it, they forget I'm not who I used to be.They were never really close to begin with, my parents who were a support system when my child was small died over the past 3 years.

I'm happy that my ex husband is happier with his new life.

But it makes me wonder, how do I begin again. No real friends, just aquatintence. No real family, just my son and he's a teenager.

I miss me, the one who danced at the clubs. The one who went for walks with my dog. The friend who was the life and soul. Now I scroll on social media, post and it sucks.

When relationships ended in the past I went out, I got blotted. Danced till my feet were sore., nursed a hangover. Went to work & then got on with life.

I really don't know what I'm doing anymore. This so new to me.

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  • Yani09
    Yani09 Online Community Member Posts: 61 Contributor

    Welcome. Life is tough, I just try to adapt to the new and make the best of it. I often remind myself that I was fortunate to have done so much, now I can’t and often overlooked by friends and family… I live the new. It is what it is, attitude. Keep going until I don’t. Not for everyone, but the energy we consume from dwelling is better in the now. Best wishes! My tuppence worth.

  • madchris55
    madchris55 Online Community Member Posts: 65 Connected

    It is hard to find other when disabled but don't give up hope one day you're find someone life about caring not what you can get out other that what I find other all way want more you cannot give love care is the best thing to give better than money or gife be strong you find it I not give up hope

  • vcsm
    vcsm Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener

    hi am in a similar situation to u was in a 33 year realsionship he’s moved on I’ve Been disabled 14 years only have 1 friend don’t see my family a lot have older children see them sometimes I am lost as well use to go dancing like u no body understand what it’s like being disabled family see u differently and treat u like this I try not to moan about life just try enjoy what I’ve got when I do go out and do things as I’m able too I’m sorry your feelings like this what I find helps me is a love to do anything to do with crafting hobbies ect this Keeps my mind together I am looking into the dating world but it’s alien to me I’m just looking for friendships with anyone is in the same situations as me I also have days when I feel lost it will get easier

    Sending hugs to u

  • madchris55
    madchris55 Online Community Member Posts: 65 Connected

    Hey keep going I have twins daughters one got juvenile arthritis the other has learning difficulties and behavioral problem and I stuck helping my X out with them and I don't get out much most my friend pass away now so I here on my own trying to do what wright and cope with my disability that gets in the way I all be here if you like to have a chat thou Chris ☺️

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