streesed out

Palmtree125
Palmtree125 Online Community Member Posts: 75 Connected

i,m so stressed with life, not coping very well

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  • Mary_Scope
    Mary_Scope Posts: 4,210 Scope Online Community Children and Family Specialists

    Hi @Palmtree125, sorry to hear you're feeling so stressed, is there something specific causing you so much stress at the moment?

  • Palmtree125
    Palmtree125 Online Community Member Posts: 75 Connected

    I'm struggle badly with depression and anxiety, I had cancer last year which a very stressful time for me, now I have appointment coming with Uc

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 8,128 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Sorry to hear that @Palmtree125. The benefits system is really tough sometimes, especially if you're already dealing with a lot. Have they told you what your appointment is about?

  • Palmtree125
    Palmtree125 Online Community Member Posts: 75 Connected

    No they haven't

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 8,128 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    That does sound stressful @Palmtree125. Is there anywhere you could check what the appointment is for, like your UC journal? Hopefully it's just something simple. Do you need to go in person or is it over the phone?

  • Palmtree125
    Palmtree125 Online Community Member Posts: 75 Connected

    I'm just so drained out with everything right now

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 8,128 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    That's really understandable considering all you've been through @Palmtree125. Have you had any support for how you've been feeling? For example, from the doctor, or a mental health professional of some kind.

  • Palmtree125
    Palmtree125 Online Community Member Posts: 75 Connected

    It's a phone appointment, just can't cope with it at all, it's like your life is not your own with them

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 8,128 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    I can understand that feeling @Palmtree125. It's horrible to feel like your life is controlled by some outside forces. Do you have anyone who can be with you during the phone call to offer you some support?

  • Palmtree125
    Palmtree125 Online Community Member Posts: 75 Connected

    No I haven't anyone to help me, I just can't cope

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Online Community Member Posts: 9,559 Championing

    Is it a review did you have to send 4 months statements ? It is really overwelming totally understand i feel for you i have bad anxiety has me on my knees but remember ot does pass uc is so so triggering and its the worry of not knowing they do reviews so im wondering if that might be the case for you i will be the same when happems to me take day by day im hoping this eases for you

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 8,128 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    I'm really sorry things are so tough for you at the moment. We've popped you an email @Palmtree125, please look out for that.

    Could you put a message on your journal to say you're struggling and can't cope with the call? They may be able to rearrange it for you.

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Online Community Member Posts: 9,559 Championing

    When sunak did the speech about sick note culture i caught ot on tv 2023 it took me down i was shaking in my bed to scared to move i thought my life was over i was screaming crying couldnt sleep eat ran to cmht screaming down phome to the doctor i didnt leave my room even to scared to leave room to use bathroom anxiety is evil it takes you down it tells you all the worse case senoreos this doesnt mean your thoughts are real its our nervous systems sceeaming at the thoughts of the unknown try to do something little have you eaten ? Washed made a cup of tea if not try to do one thing daily just think the call will come then it will be resolved and over imagine these advisors do millions of uc calls to claimants this shall pass hold onto that thought thinking of you

  • Palmtree125
    Palmtree125 Online Community Member Posts: 75 Connected

    Anxiety is extremely hard deal with, I to suffer with extreme anxiety and depression where I just feel unable cope, so I understand how you maybe feeling.

  • Palmtree125
    Palmtree125 Online Community Member Posts: 75 Connected

    I have UC call tomorrow they said it's for 30 mins, I'm feeling so anxious I'm not sure what's its about, I really can't cope with it, it's making feel sick and extremely anxious.

  • Flow123
    Flow123 Online Community Member Posts: 9 Listener

    Hope it all goes well for you.

    Have you got anyone who can go with You?

    I think you should take someone with you for support.

  • Holly_Scope
    Holly_Scope Posts: 4,794 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    That's a really good suggestion @Flow123 if there's someone you can have with you for the call, might just make it a little easier having that support. I hope you're able to settle today and it goes ok tomorrow @Palmtree125. Please let us know how it goes.

  • Palmtree125
    Palmtree125 Online Community Member Posts: 75 Connected

    Thanks for reaching me, every busy so I'm alone alot time..