How hard to find love been disabled

madchris55
madchris55 Community Member Posts: 73 Contributor
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Why is so hard to find love been disabled and people treat so different and that people thing we have more money and can buy anything they want I been single for 11 year 2 date that both ends in the same way once people see how I am they stop talking or want to know us and they date site are a rip off but we have more love to give ask very little only be loved what is wrong with it ?

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  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 9,132 Championing

    Hope it was ok

    Ive sent you a message which u should find in your envelope

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 9,132 Championing

    Sorry to hear how things are

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 9,132 Championing

    Sorry I will leave you in peace

  • Stellar
    Stellar Community Member Posts: 539 Trailblazing

    are you looking for love organically? dating apps are a cesspool

  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Community Member Posts: 4,860 Championing

    Hi @madchris55 perhaps you should look for friendship first and see how that develops.

    Do you go anywhere to meet people like clubs or social meetings. Your local council should have a list of what is available in your area.

    Please take care of yourself.

    Hi @Strawberry1 I hope you are doing ok?

    Take care.

  • ChrisR777
    ChrisR777 Community Member Posts: 1,412 Trailblazing

    I would definitely agree with Bluebell. Dating sites are perhaps only going to cause you hurt; it's more a livestock market, and plays on our less desirable traits.

    Making a friend would be nice, even if nothing further develops.

  • luvpink
    luvpink Community Member Posts: 5,217 Championing

    @madchris55

    Hi

    Personally I wouldn't use dating sites.

    I would try meeting people in a natural , environment, develop friendships and find things you have in common, then see if things develop into romance.

  • luvpink
    luvpink Community Member Posts: 5,217 Championing

    @Strawberry1

    Hi

    I hope you are okay.

    Bright blessings to you.

  • JW77
    JW77 Community Member Posts: 253 Empowering

    I'd suggest https://outsiders.org.uk
    Dating run by disabled people for disabled people.
    Outsiders has been going for over 40 years..

    They used to run several lunches where people with meet, as well as workshops on dating, etc.. I know the London lunch is just about ticking over. When I lived in London I was able to date several lovely people over the years



    More recently I came across this organisation.. Similar sort of stuff.. https://enhancetheuk.org/sex-and-disability/

  • SheffieldMan1976
    SheffieldMan1976 Posts: 3,147 Connected

    The majority of dating sites/apps are a scam IMO, £20 for 150 credits at 20 credits per message? Eh?

  • ChrisR777
    ChrisR777 Community Member Posts: 1,412 Trailblazing
    edited May 13
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1125345#Comment_1125345

    I joined 'Outsiders' a number of years ago, and Tuppy sold it to me as a dating site. This seemed to be news to many of the lady members!

    I imagine it was originally, before it all went online.

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,040 Championing

    Your signature ❤️

  • JW77
    JW77 Community Member Posts: 253 Empowering
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1125357#Comment_1125357

    Outsiders was has evolved. It seemed to work better when there were regular socials, people could actually meet. I joined when it was still on paper for the listings! :)

    A lot of the regulars in London have either moved or some sadly passed away.

  • Anhedonia2
    Anhedonia2 Community Member Posts: 259 Empowering

    I find dating apps aren't really for finding love, most people want very casual relations.

  • StarryEyed
    StarryEyed Community Member Posts: 1,602 Championing

    So I'm waiting at the shop for my ebike tire to be fixed, reading this thread, when I look up and see a suggestion. No app needed. Just plop on this hat..... 😊

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  • ChrisR777
    ChrisR777 Community Member Posts: 1,412 Trailblazing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1126762#Comment_1126762

    I would guess mainly young people want casual sex, I would want the full package every time.

  • Wibbles
    Wibbles Community Member Posts: 3,640 Championing

    Is OUTSIDERS still going - I joined 30 years ago and met a few women - unfortunately none worked out - I went on holiday with one - I know that Tuppy died 12 months ago and have no idea if the club is still running ?

  • SheffieldMan1976
    SheffieldMan1976 Posts: 3,147 Connected
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1126777#Comment_1126777

    The S word would be a nice extra, I just want to sit and have a cosy chat with a nice lady aged between 45 and 55, someone who's not Mum or a support worker basically.

    Over a coffee in a nice Bar, or even a couple of Pints if she fancies it.

  • egiste2r
    egiste2r Posts: 161 Connected

    We need to give charities a valuable idea to encourage them to open their own dating site. Another idea is to negotiate with dating site owners in other countries to create a UK section.
    You could also go out and try to meet people yourself if you can.

  • jonf
    jonf Community Member Posts: 458 Pioneering
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1125290#Comment_1125290

    all of my close friends have four legs and are ginger

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