Audhd parent - what support does my child get?

I'm Audhd parent with child who has many autistic traits. I spoke with teachers at reception and officially request support for her in September as she becomes very anxious about school etc she has social communication, sensory, emotional problems etc and I asked school to support her autism assessment. They still monitoring. I'm angry I had so many Senco meetings and they monitoring I asked officially for all support she getting and what they already can say after that they said they see emotional problems and social communication and show me diagram that she is somewhere between monitoring and SEN. I'm speechless I don't know how to ask differently WHAT SUPPORT does she get and how long more it's gonna take. Please help