'I used a sex surrogate after being bullied for my disability'

From The Mirror

By Julia Hunt

A guest on This Morning opened up about using a sex surrogate and how it changed everything for him

A man who was bullied because of his cerebral palsy has told how he turned to a sex surrogate.

James opened up about his experience in an appearance on This Morning, telling the ITV show's hosts Cat Deeley and Ben Shephard how the experience has been life-changing for him.

Sitting on the sofa alongside his sex surrogate Saurora Grace, James said he'd been bullied through school and afterwards, explaining: "I guess there's a weird thing where I sort of walk the line between disabled and able-bodied and people don't really know how to handle that."

He said it got to "a point where I just stopped leaving the house because I'd have people spit at me, throw apples at me".

James said he tried lots of different things but was "not really in a good place" and "felt very lost".

When a friend suggested he try a sex surrogate, he decided to give it a go.

"It becomes one of those things where you go, once you've gone through it, you go, 'I wish I'd done it sooner'," he said. "Because it, it can be extremely life-changing. It changed a lot for me.

"You don't sort of, realise the need for connection and things because it's not what people think it is. It's not like, there's a lot of preconceived notions about it and different things, and that's why I wanted to talk about it."

Saurora then explained: "Sex surrogacy is all about the intention behind it. So it's more holistic. There's a more of a therapeutic aspect to it. It's all about connection, intimacy, and literally seeing and hearing the person. Like, a lot of us all want to be seen and heard as human beings, and so that is ultimately what it is.

"He's just the same, and he deserves to have a loving relationship and, you know, deserves to have sex and a juicy lifestyle."

Asked how her work had helped others, she said: "I get a lot of messages afterwards, and people are like, 'I'm now not gonna go and kill myself.' And that really hits."

"It honestly, in all ways that I could count, it's changed my life," said James. "It changed the trajectory of what I'm gonna do with my life. So it's just been extremely powerful. It's taken me in directions that I just thought were never doors that would open to someone like me.

"So Saurora's training me to be a surrogate now. So that's the career change for me."

He went on: "I've got this lived-in experience that nobody else has got, and I can sort of I've been to those dark places, and I really, really want to help people out."

You can watch the interview on YouTube