Advice for adult autistic son?

coates30 · February 2018

Hi I am a 61 years old mother. Of a adult autistic son. Any advice would be great

steve51 · February 2018

Hi @coates30

Good Afternoon & Welcome.

Here’s some info for you below:

https://search.scope.org.uk/s/redirect?collection=scope-meta&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.scope.org.uk%2Fsupport%2Ffamilies%2Fdiagnosis%2Fautism&index_url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.scope.org.uk%2Fsupport%2Ffamilies%2Fdiagnosis%2Fautism&auth=lmkPij2LcIn7oWw%2FP5Ct2g&profile=_default&type=FP

https://search.scope.org.uk/s/redirect?collection=scope-meta&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.scope.org.uk%2Fsupport%2Ffamilies%2Fdiagnosis%2Fautism&index_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.scope.org.uk%2Fsupport%2Ffamilies%2Fdiagnosis%2Fautism&auth=pOQYE8JE5%2FSc46hVUZBMvg&profile=_default&rank=1&query=Asd

Many Thanks.

coates30 · February 2018

Thank you steve51 finding it hard these days hope fully things will get better

JennysDad · February 2018

Hi @coates30, and welcome to the community. It is good to have you with us.
We have lots and lots of people in the community who either are on the Autism Spectrum themselves or who have or have had children on the spectrum. You will find plenty of people to talk to and @steve51 has given you some very useful links.
You are in a safe place here, and among friends. Don't be shy of talking to us or of asking any questions, because we are here only to help.
Warmest best wishes to you,
Richard

coates30 · February 2018

Thank you richard I am still learning and trying to understand Autism my son is 34years and trying to get him help and support is hard he is isolated from everyone.

steve51 · February 2018

Hi @coates30

Thats no probs at all, we are all here for you!!!!!

Yes it’s not easy but when you look back you will be pleased to have taken this “Route” believe “Me”

Please please “share” the “burden”

That’s why we are all here for!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

JennysDad · February 2018

Hello @coates30
Do I take it that your son's was a late diagnosis? By rough calculation he was born in 1984, and I suspect that 1984-2000 were not good years to be autistic at school.
Best to you,
Richard
(I worked in support of Autistic children at a High School from about 2006 to 2016)

coates30 · February 2018

1983 he was born yes late diagnosis. At school he was always aside from the other kids

JennysDad · February 2018

Hello @coates30
Never was good at maths

If your son went undiagnosed for a long while you must have had a really awful time - and so must he. I am deeply saddened to hear that. And I can imagine your anxieties only too well, so we must see what we can do to alleviate them.
I know that when my first wife gave birth to our profoundly handicapped little girl, one of the biggest worries was what would happen to her if she survived us, but 'fortunately' or not, that did not happen.
I am putting in a link here to our 'Ask an ASD advisor' forum. I think you might find some useful information there, and you can post your own questions. It is very likely that the administrators here will move your post there anyway.
By all means, if you would like to, tell me more about the day-to-day reality you are faced with, and the kind of problems you are having to deal with.
I know it's tough.
Warmest best wishes and my profoundest respect,
Richard

coates30 · February 2018

Thank you so much will take your advice

JennysDad · February 2018

https://community.scope.org.uk/categories/ask-an-asd-advisor I missed out the link @coates30, sorry. It is here.
Don't hesitate to be in touch.
I'm going to have to take a 'dinner break', but will be back later.
Warmest best wishes,
Richard

coates30 · February 2018

So sorry Richard over your daughter. And I can imagen what it was like for you and your wife. You enjoy your dinner take care

JennysDad · February 2018

Hi @coates30

Thank you for your comment. It is a quarter of a century since I lost my Jenny, so I'm sort of accustomed to it now

She was terribly hard work, but still the best thing that ever happened in my life.
Now, let's look after YOU

Affection and respect,
Richard
(signing off for the night)

coates30 · February 2018

Thank you good night

JennysDad · February 2018

Hi @coates30
Just saying hello. I notice your post has been moved to the ASD forum and hope that will attract some of the knowledgeable people on here. And I'm still listening

Best to you
Richard

coates30 · February 2018

Thank you so much

JennysDad · February 2018

Hi, @coates30

Advice for adult autistic son?

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