Overwhelmed after a stroke

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chellgibb76
chellgibb76 Online Community Member Posts: 7 Listener
edited April 2018 in Families and carers
Hi all I'm new

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  • JennysDad
    JennysDad Online Community Member Posts: 2,290 Championing
    Hello @chellgibb76 and a warm welcome to the community. Very glad to meet you.
    Would you feel up to telling us a little more about yourself? It is safe to do so here and you are among friends, literally from the 'get go'. Knowing more might help us to find ways to be of use to you :smile:
    Really very glad you are here,
    Here and listening,
    Warmest best wishes,
    Richard
  • chellgibb76
    chellgibb76 Online Community Member Posts: 7 Listener
    I am 42 years old mother of 3 married I had a stroke last year and finding it very hard to cope with everything.
  • JennysDad
    JennysDad Online Community Member Posts: 2,290 Championing
    Hello @chellgibb76 and thank you for getting back to me. Sorry it has taken me a while to respond.
    Hardly surprising you're struggling - I'm going to guess Michelle as your name. It is such a very cruel and devastating thing to happen.
    I'm here to care and to listen, to offer encouragement if I can, but you will also find others in the community who have similar experiences and conditions to your own and who will be only too glad to share with you.
    To begin with, you might try our Disabled people forum here https://community.scope.org.uk/categories/disabled-people and our Disabled parents thread here https://community.scope.org.uk/categories/disabled-parents. Have a look at some of the discussions and see what you think, perhaps even join in.
    For my part I remain here and listening.
    Warmest best wishes to you, always,
    Richard
  • Lasian_Alumni
    Lasian_Alumni Online Community Member Posts: 650 Empowering
    Hi @chellgibb76, welcome to the community!

    I'm sorry to hear that you're finding it hard to cope - please do let us know if there's any way we can help and support you, even if you just need a chat.

    It's great to have you join. Get in touch if you have any questions  :)
  • chellgibb76
    chellgibb76 Online Community Member Posts: 7 Listener
    I don' have any family round about my hubby works 7 days to keep us going so I have the kids all the time myself and I have had depression as well it' just really hard.
  • Sam_Alumni
    Sam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,602 Championing
    Hi @chellgibb76
    That sounds really tough, do you have any friends nearby?  How old are your kids? Are there any local groups you could go to?
  • chellgibb76
    chellgibb76 Online Community Member Posts: 7 Listener
    Yrs I have a few friends but hate asking people. No local groups about
  • Sam_Alumni
    Sam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,602 Championing
    My husband used to work away for long periods and I do understand that isolation and difficulty in getting out and feeling alone.

    I have a chronic illness and I also understand that feeling of not wanting to ask for help.

    Do you feel that you need help and support for your own care after the stroke or is it more general feelings of being overwhelmed?
  • stephenjohn
    stephenjohn Online Community Member Posts: 44 Contributor
    It’s tough ,don’t be afraid to ask for help ,someone somewhere will be there for you .......you are not alone ! 

  • chellgibb76
    chellgibb76 Online Community Member Posts: 7 Listener
    Just overwhelmed with it plus my son has problems we are going through getting him tested for adhd 
  • Sam_Alumni
    Sam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,602 Championing
    It is hard and reaching out is a great step! We have lots of members here who are disabled people and have children so I hope you get to connect with lots more of them as we are a friendly group.

    It could be worth having a look around for local groups, if you want to tell me your general area where you live, Im happy to have a search for you.
  • Sam_Alumni
    Sam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,602 Championing
    Our disabled parents category has lots of posts in it from other parents and carers, you might want to take a look through and chat with them?
  • chellgibb76
    chellgibb76 Online Community Member Posts: 7 Listener
    edited April 2018
    I live in cumbernauld that would be great as I don' have the time to search at the minute
  • Sam_Alumni
    Sam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,602 Championing
    Great, I just edited out your postcode for safety! :)
  • Sam_Alumni
    Sam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,602 Championing
    Clackmannanshire Stroke Support Group 
    Contact
    Susan Bennett
    07764 907472

    Families Glasgow Guide

    ADHD Parent support Glasgow
    Group meetings 2018

    Parent and Toddler groups Cumbernauld (Im not sure how old your kids are)

    ASD ADHS ASN parents support group

    Homestart Scotland
    I'd highly recommend Homestart, they offer peer to peer support for parents, they team you up with a volunteer who comes along to your home and helps out, that could be chatting, helping with the kids or a specific thing you'd like to achieve.

    Mums Meet Up 
    This is a website that connects isolated mums with one another, you can search via your area.

    Netmums
    Online parenting chat

    Things to do in Cumbernauld with kids

    Families online - Lanarkshire North

    I hope some of these help!
  • cathie
    cathie Online Community Member Posts: 143 Contributor
    About finding it hard after stroke.this is my second or maybe third last one we'd by far the worse ..i think the lack of resources  avaliable  is shocking no help from social services my family belive I should be doing far more which makes me feel terrible truth is I can't  can feel very down and almost like screaming or grt in a ball on the sofa and stay there for ever I miss my car the independence hate asking for help but have no choice I was hoping I could ask if it improves  through time but sounds as thou it doesn't.. 

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