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Hi again CARL58 asleep so I've took the time to answer some of these pip questions he'd have no chance answering by himself,he couldn't even write that they'd understand even i can't read his writing,I really feel for him,as he gets really upset trying to get people to understand him because he repeats himself over and over.as to him it's the first time he's said it,if he goes for an assessment there going to need patience with him,be no good them firing questions at hiim he won't grasp what there on about, even i have to be repedative til he grasps what I'm on about,it's like having a deck o f cards stacked against you,but I will get him through it they lack understanding then that's there ignorance, I will make it very clear that he can get abusive and lash out if he feels vunerable and that he has no control over that at all.ive said enough needed to get that of me chest sorry all jen
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Disability Gamechanger - 2019
Hello @CARL58 Sorry to hear what is happening to him.
I know we as a community are understanding have time and are supportive.
The issues are complex and difficult for any one to deal with. Especially a good friend. My concern is that some where along the journey. Some one has to try to help the guy.
I do think it is going to take a lot of time and patience to try to give him some guidance and also some support.
I know from my own experiences . Which I have had which are personal to me it took two years and more for me to come to terms with it. Only by the patience and time of support workers.
I would add the issues are that he needs that time and that special professional help to be there as a support. Some one who can be supportive and understand the complexities the mental side and the emotions.
There are people out there as I have used them.
With a lot of professional guidance, advice and support. The difficulty your friend has is to cope with what ever they might say.
Changes, adaptions and any thing of a structure for any one is always finding the way forward. A constant struggle striving to adapt.
I could suggest the charity I used yet is that the answer. Did help and give my life back but that is me.
If you wish me to give the name if you think might help be happy to do so.
Please contact me.
A lot of my concern and care is for you the friend.
You are doing a lot and my concern care is your mental wellbeing.
I am as every one is always here to be supportive, ready to listen.
Wish you well.
Take care.
@thespiceman
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Hello @CARL58 Thank you for contacting me . Much appreciated.
Jen how are you doing? Thank you for sharing and caring.
This is what is happening in the health sector. This is all about money, under funding, over burden systems and staff quotas.
To give you a simple outline of the system.
That is the big issue and problem. Having been there. So many times.
Understand the Doctors given medication for him to sleep good this does help.
This is good to hear . Excellent Doctors concerned and caring. Have the right Doctor in your corner will help.
This I am sure will be a lot of reassurance.
Understand also about any surgery going to be anxious, nervous. He will need a lot of support which you are doing.
Hope you are taking care of your self. Your important too remember .
Always happy to hear from you.
Please take care.
@thespiceman
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Hello @CARL58 Good morning thanks for reply. Good to hear.
Thank you for letting me know how is he is.
The problem is my concern this is important. That he needs the points to get the benefit.
That is main problem with PIP about the points and the descriptors.
It is not helping those with a need or support to get the additional money to maintain the illness or condition or disability.
I understand about the brain injury and additional conditions, illness. It is how DWP perceive this got to try to get this across to them.
Reason I advised that link to that charity. Will stand up for you.
I hope you can find some time to look at that.
I can understand the frustration the anger all of that.
This will hopefully be eased if he gets the counselling the right support.
Thanks for asking about me. Just happy to help.
Remember your doing OK .
Small steps.
Keep in touch.
Take care.
@thespiceman
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Hello @CARL58 Jen thank you for letting me know.
I know this is not good. I know experiencing so many aspects of pain, heartbreak. The illness and conditions he has.
There are difficulties.
Understand all that.
This is good to hear Doctor is going to visit. This will I hope give him a lot of reassurance.
What is important that we as a community are here to advise, give guidance. Offer what we can.
Only to happy to listen. Be supportive anytime.
Thank you for sharing and caring.
Always in prayers and thoughts.
Take care.
@thespiceman
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Hello @CARL58 Jen sorry that happened. Should be given extension.
May be the Doctor should give the DWP a ring. Might be an answer.
Please can I add do not ever understand how and why. This is ridiculous and maybe ring again with who I suggested The Doctor.
Really feel for you.
Please keep me informed and the community.
Here any time.
Take care.
@thespiceman
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Hello @CARL58 Jen thank you. Good to hear you. Hope you be successful this time.
Here to a positive outcome. Hope they listen to you
Please let the community know.
@thespiceman
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Hello @CARL58 Jen thank you for letting me know of todays outcomes. The Doctors Visit and everything else.
We are here to support you as well be a friend ready to listen.
Please ask if we can help with anything. Any questions please ask. Glad to help.
Anytime keep in touch.
Take care.
@thespiceman
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Hello @CARL58 Jen thank you for sharing.
Seems the Doctor done the amazing thing . Done this report. Hopefully that will help him enormously.
Get the benefit and support he needs.
Please keep in touch just let any of the community know. How things are progressing.
Please take care.
@thespiceman
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