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AMY73
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My husband has Dementia and it can be very difficult living with him . I have been told not to dissagree with him But some times that makes it even more difficult as he wants his own way all the time . So how would I need to deal with this ?Anyhelp would be appreciated. Thank you
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Hi @AMY73, thank you for sharing this. I'm really sorry to hear how difficult it's proving.
Have you been in contact with Dementia UK's helpline at all? You can ring them on 0800 888 6678 (Monday – Friday 9am – 9pm and Saturday – Sunday 9am – 5pm) and perhaps they might be able to advise you a bit.Community Manager
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Hi,My nan had dementia so i know exactly how you feel. You're right, it's very difficult to live with. I have to agree with the advice you were given, speaking from experience with my nan at first i used to disagree with things she used to say or i'd correct her if she was wrong....I soon found out that this was the worst thing i could do because she always seemed worse if i did this. In the end, i used to agree with what she said. If she told me stories of what she did during the day regarding her mother, i used to just agree with her and even ask her what she did., even though i knew it was impossible for this to have happened because her mother was no longer alive.She'd get my name wrong too but i overlooked that and used to just answer her anyway. It's extremely difficult and my heart goes out to you because i know just how difficult it is.May i ask if you receive any help with him? Any carers? family that help? It's difficult being alone and coping but you shouldn't be coping alone. You can request a needs assessment from your local council and a social worker will visit you both in your home to do the assessment. There could possibly be some help out there for you. https://www.carersuk.org/help-and-advice/practical-support/getting-care-and-support/needs-assessmentI would also recommend ringing the helpline Adrian advised and they will give you further advice.
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I would recommend contacting the local council for advice. They can do a needs assessment and support you. Can you afford to place her in a care home or not?
Social services should also be able to help you cope. My grandmother has dementia eventually she was diagnosed and was sent to a good care home since they were unable to protect her safely at her apartment. I think my mom had to sell her apartment to help pay for her care. Dementia is one of the hardest disabilities you should not be caring for her alone. -
Sadly my grandmother is no longer alive and hasn't been for 12 years, which is why i said "had" rather than "has"
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Very sad news. At this moment, you have to take extra care of him. Go to the doctor for valuable advice.
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