Who finds it difficult to make friends in adult life because of illness mental /physical?

April2018mom said:

Roddy said:

April2018mom said:

martins said:

Yes my daughter does as people see the wheelchair and not the person sitting in it. My daughter has a great personality and is loved by people who take the time to speak to her but boys and people her age arent interested as all they see is a WHEELCHAIR.

I have had the same problem. My son does use a wheelchair but that tells you very little about him. How hard is it to look past the disability? It is not rocket science. 

It is all very sad when certain people cannot see beyond a wheelchair. A 'wheelchair' is by no means enough to judge the person who's in one. There are HUNDREDS of instances when a person can find themselves having to use one at some point, without necessarily having any ongoing disability. Some people have very shallow minds indeed, as is evident. 

I’m a secretive person so I don’t want to share medical details unless I absolutely have to. Even then I am still cautious about how much I tell other people. 

And that is your right, and your prerogative as an individual. Do 'we' go about asking personal details about those that we meet? No, most of us do not, and it should never be taken for granted either. My own concerns are my own business, to be shared ONLY when or if I decide to do so, and if that is a stumbling block to others, tough luck! There's much more to know about me, than my disabilities, and it is those things which should be of interest to others if they care to know me as the 'person' that I am. AMEN

I've found it very difficult, I have no friends because of my disability. 

Thankyou Richard ??

Hello @Tammyjane33   Thank you for highlighting these issues.

I want to say your never alone on here. Always some one to talk to, guide and support with anything.

I be happy to listen to any one who needs to.  Including your good self.

I have friends on here. Good to be in the company of those who understand.

It is as I said the hard part is outside the negativity of those who I thought were my friends in relation to even call them family.

I have been thinking recently some people whom class as friends in the reality are just not worth the hassle and time if they cause your problems.

The sad and poignant truth is most of those who are not  part of our community. Cannot accept and ever think they would end up like my self.

Perhaps having a friend such as me is too close to home and he is seeing what I am going through.

I know from past events. The assessment the last one he attended. I had to share private, intimate parts of my lifestyle in the form to the assessor.

His look and his deameanour was in my opinion maybe the start of the downfall of our friendship.

As a friend do you accept those with issues they need to discuss can you handle it.

My thoughts are some can not.  Maybe the reason he probably thought can not and do not wish to be part of this.

Scary and frightening those of the social community who are not aware or if they are not admitting that if they see some one who is part of our community.

Might be them one day. After all two things can not stop getting old and with ageing may come disability.

In its many forms.  

All rings true.

Take care.

@thespiceman